Empowered by Other Woman Encounter

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#1 Dec 29 - 7PM
susnebraska
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Empowered by Other Woman Encounter

Funny story happened today. An example of taking back - my power. While my daughter and I enjoyed sushi at one of my favorite restaurants, to which I am a VIP, the NARC's new ugly fugly girlfriend walked in and was seated next to us! When she saw me, she literally sprinted to the restroom to obviously call the Narc and his meddling sister.

His daughter a 17-year-old brat, whom I liked a little bit, said hello, as she frantically texted someone. She replied with a half hi. My daughter, age nine, turned around and offered same salutations, to which she ignored her. Talk about poor upbringing and no class. Raised by her NARC dad, of course.

Anyhow, she too got up and ran to the washroom.

I waved to the waitress, and asked her to move them to another table on opposite side of room.

When the OW and 17-year-old brat returned. The waitress told them "sorry this section is closed. You'll have to sit other there, as she pointed to the opposite side of restaurant."

As the pair walked away, with their tail between their legs, I chuckled. I high-fived my daughter and the waitress.

I dated the NARC for 5 years. He cheated on me with this seriously ugly, fat woman. Seriously. She did wrong, and he did wrong. He just disappeared. he eventually blackmailed, threatened me, after a relationship filled with control, verbal abuse and outright cruelty to myself and daughter.

I tipped the waitress extra in the end. Plus, no confrontation with anyone.

Now that's a path forward...

Dec 30 - 5AM
Used
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sunnebraska

YOU CERTAINLY GOT YOUR POWER BACK.....GREAT STUFF... KARMA HAPPENS WHEN WE LEAST EXPECT IT.... THEY WERE RELAGATED TO THE ANYONE SECTION....LOL.. LOVE IT...CLASS WILL OUT...
Dec 30 - 2AM
Im_always_fine
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You really must give God or

You really must give God or Fate a nod for such beautifully executed empowering encounter. If we wait these moments ALWAYS come.
Dec 30 - 6AM (Reply to #12)
susnebraska
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Quick on feet - Yeah!

And, I am thankful, that I am quick on my feet. Now to build my self-esteem, I must compliment myself for coming up with this empowering solution to a very, very uncomfortable situation. Resolved. Thank u, I am always fine! Hugs, susnebraska
Dec 30 - 4AM (Reply to #11)
susnebraska
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Thank u!

I needed feedback about this empowering encounter. I struggle with this devalue and discard a lot. I feel good to have taken the high road. Thank you!
Dec 29 - 7PM
Hunter
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You should have bought fatty

You should have bought fatty dinner as a thank you for taking him off your hands.. Hunter
Dec 29 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
susnebraska
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Funny Hunter

Nah. I already spent enough money on therapy, loss of work time, medications, and the like. But it sure was hilarious to see fugly ugly, her gross hair, lame clothes, etc. She was scared. That was hilarious. EMPOWERMENT!
Dec 30 - 5AM (Reply to #3)
bgirl
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I suppose I could be classed

I suppose I could be classed as an OW....but I could be a skinny fit blonde bitch or a fat lame ugly bitch, but I guess this other sad case soon to be victim may have a side to the story that only she and of course he would know.... I now feel empathy for everyone that comes in contact with these incredibly manipulative, calculating, heartless excuses for human beings....they leave so much hate, destruction and despair in their path...
Dec 30 - 6AM (Reply to #4)
susnebraska
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Feel sorry for other woman

Thank you bgirl. I too have sympathy, not empathy for the OW. He probably picked her 'cause she is not a looker, and easy prey. Whatever. It does not matter now. All I care about is to regain my dignity and personal strength, and to take the high road. If there is a run in again, but this time with my EX NARC, I know it will be difficult. Still, I intend to take the high road... After losing all power of myself in this 5 year abusive relationship, it feels good to wear a smile on my face in front of any of them, and remove myself from uncomfortable situations, without looking like a coward.
Dec 30 - 6AM (Reply to #5)
bgirl
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You would NEVER be a

You would NEVER be a coward.... He is the ultimate in cowardess and weakness... I had no idea the lies these ppl were capable of.... I hope your life is blessed with contentment from here on in. Lord knows any stint in Narcville makes one deserving of some kind of reprieve. All the best....maybe one day you'll be able to kick his walking stick out from under him...or another revenge fantasy of mine is a 'wanted poster' plastered around town with his picture and a list of his BS.... I suppose I can keep dreaming hey.... Take care.... bgirl
Dec 30 - 6AM (Reply to #6)
susnebraska
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Karma

Bgirl - Karma has followed this jerk. Now while I wish him no physical harm, I discovered he was in a bad car accident (not hurt), someone is slandering him (truthfully) and his business all over the internet. And, the OW, the NARCs new girlfriend is seriously fugly. Plus, he is in a lawsuit. She can have him. I pledge to not hate him though. Hate makes me bitter and is not healthy. But no, I do not forgive him, nor will I forget what he did to me. He is trash. Thank the Lord he's gone from my life. Thank the Lord.
Dec 30 - 6AM (Reply to #7)
bgirl
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Yep I often wonder about

Yep I often wonder about Karma....but u r deadnright nothingnthat happens to them really helps us....we have to help ourselves. I haven't got tomthe anger stage yet....I am slow...10 months and still feeling a bit of CD.... Was close to dead until I found some answers...thought I was literally insane. Wishing you all the best xx :)
Dec 30 - 6AM (Reply to #8)
susnebraska
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Anger stage

Bgirl ~ I wanted to get over this 5 year relationship in 2 months. Didn't happen. Three...no. Four...improvement. Five months post NARC break up, there are still triggers, and occasional nightmares filled with agonizing metaphors. Going on dates this soon, has really been a nightmare, too. I had a one month relationship with a jerk. Another date was a perv. A third date was pathetic/drunk/gambler, and the fourth date was a drunk, who blew me off during the date, but later asked me to go to Cabo. The more I date, the more I realize I am not ready to date. That being single to heal is probably the better, more healthy route. I live with the nightmare still. Sometimes when I walk by the front door, I look to see if he is there. He is not. It's all so tough. Please expect to move from one level of mourning to another as time goes by. There will be setbacks. triggers. Pain and suffering. The goal is to be happy with oneself, and to eventually find a man, who is not like the EX NARC - at all. Peace to you, Bgirl. Susnebraska
Jan 7 - 4PM (Reply to #9)
abusednomore
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susnebraska, everything u hav

susnebraska, everything u hav said is right, the only way to heal is to truly be single and love urself. i went on a few dates a couple of months after exnarc left but realised i wasnt ready, and even tho its lonely at times, i log on here and realise im not alone, and realise i am so much better on my own than with the ex! Thankyou for your words, i can really relate, and well done.xxxx