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I have major FB snooping issues, and "just a small check up on him, won`t do much damage", but it does!! In the end, I feel like a junkie, using a little speed instead of heroin, but guess what? A speedball today, one tomorrow, and you get the `high` again. In the end, whaever he says, does, the conclusion is the same, no changing..he is a Narcisist. Period. No matter how much I try to change the script in my head. I can tell you a method that worked for me, for two weeks and could have been even more. I typed endless letters and numbers without any connection between them, in a Word document. As a password. Then, I logged into my account, and copy-pasted the weird new password. Then closed the Word document, withut saving it. There you are, extreme option for addicts, at least, it worked for a while for me, it`s like deactivating your profile, but only for yourself. Then, I had periods when I got very mad, like, look I have to leave even FB because of this guy. But the truth is, if I leave it, I`m doing it for MY OWN SAKE. There are so many triggers, ow`s, Narc friends, songs, rollercasters, dramas..all a mess. I kept it for events, and for few good honorable people, that I had among friends. But I don`t know. Sometimes, NC means exactly that..if you feel you go there, subcounsciously to find out clues, drama about his moves, ow, it only causes you Pain. NC is for us..to have a chance to a better life. I understand how hard it is to completely let go, I still experience withdrawal symptoms, just like kicking off a drug. But it`s for our best. NC lets us see them for their actions, not for their words. One question I put myself when I`m temped to break NC, is "Did he caught you when you fall? Will he catch you ever, when you fall?"..NO, always no, in spite of everything sweet they might promise.

peaches....I bet he knew you had his f/b password, and what you would be doing...it was you speaking to her and him beign there that is GOOD...cos, YOU CAN NO LONGER DO IT.... no longer can you torture yourself AND NO LONGER CAN HE SET YOU UP...

Peach, you will need to change the password BACK to what it was. That is his personal facebook page, and you have violated his privacy. I understand why you did it, why you wanted to do it......but it does not make it right. I am surprised he hasn't reported you to facebook and had you suspended. Believe me, it happens. Change it back, walk away, never to look at it again. Temptations are hard to resist. But, you are not helping yourself by doing these things, not at all. Stay strong Peach, and know that you are better than all of that, and you are better than him. Speak to your therapist about this as well. He/she may be able to give you exercises that you will find useful in avoiding temptation. Good luck!

I agree with everyone that you can't be so hard on yourself. And I agree with Hunter, who says it the best, Contact = Pain. I finally had to stop snooping when he found out I was doing it. I would check his email hourly. It was sick and an obsession. I have NEVER been like that in my life. It's so hard to be lied to, to be abandoned. Once he foound out, the obsessive snooping was over. And I'm so thankful he found out! It's was stopped me. And what a relief. So, now that he knows, he will change everything and you will have to stop. It's almost like we want them to find out so that we have to stop. Anyway, here's your chance to just do it! Start NC! You will feel a relief and such freedom!

WILL FOLLOW THE SIMPLE DIRECTIONS. NO CONTACT MEANS NO CONTACT. I should know. When I first found this site, I thought if I did not talk with him that was no contact. WRONG, WRONG, WRONG. NO CONTACT MEANS NONE. NO TEXTS, NO FB, NO NOTHING. When you get tired of the pain, you will try what is suggested. I got tired of it. So, I followed the steps and they work. Start to love yourself, and go NO CONTACT, your worth it. Love Jen

a gift. It needed to happen to make you STOP this irrational behavior. You know it's not healthy to sign onto someone else's FB account and chat as if you are him. You have been exposed and cannot risk doing that again for what it could bring into your life. It has already brought nothing good into your life, so the lesson is to stop it. This is your opportunity to go NC for good. Exit from the drama. You are out. Done. You know everything you need to know about this guy and the situation, so now you can work on doing what you have to do to process it and move on. It's NOT ABOUT HIM any more, Peaches. It's all about YOU and what you need to detach and stop having a hand in your own abuse. He abused you. You don't want to abuse yourself even more, right? And yes, you CAN stay off FB. One minute at a time. It is imperative for your mental health, not to mention the supply you just gave him...Think of it this way. He has robbed you for long enough. Why give him another inch of space (at least that he knows of)? If you really feel like doing FB snooping, divert your attention by coming here instead; or going for a walk and then telling yourself "If I still want to do it in the next ten minutes, then I can..." and wait the ten minutes and see what happens. You are in control here. No one is "forcing you" to FB snoop. You now know the pain and confusion it brought you so if you were to do it again, well, there's no denying that you are participating in causing your own pain. It cannot be blamed on him or anyone else. The burden rests with you. Peaches. You can go NC and you must if you ever want to move past this. NC means No facebook, no googling, no snooping. Pretend he is dead. He never really existed in the first place anyway. Once you are truly NC, you will see a shift in your thinking and in your focus and you will be so happy about it. I hope this helps and doesn't sound too harsh. You have the power here, Peaches. Use it. Most sincerely, (not) spinning. BECAUSE I'M TOTALLY NO CONTACT FOREVER!

I'll say it again.. Honestly .. You guys I'm getting tired of typing it.. Doing things like this makes you your own worst enemy..instead of snooping.. read here .. And read on the disorder.. Notice I put read!!! Also..because you did this. Now the OW believes his lies about you.. Please ,please learn for this mistake.. CONTACT = PAIN Hunter

I see Facebook as a relationship wrecker! I have my xN 's password, I was tempted to use it, but I already know what he's been up to, I don't need to snoop to validate it.. I have no interest in what he's done, with whom.. He only has to go to his email to change his password again, so he can change it, and if he does..let him get on with it..you're only hurting yourself when you snoop, it's not worth the pain x

never too late to go NC. you goofed. it's over and done with. your ego will recover. get up...and move on. no more facebook. no more contacing his new lovers. time to take care of you, ok? ((hugs)) you can do this. take one day at a time. say...to yourself...self, today, i will be nc. and when you get through today...worry about tomorrow. i found that was easier to take nc in bite size morsels... but be done with this fool. seriously.