Fear of seeing the ex again
Fear of seeing the ex again
I left my N lover 3 weeks ago, sort of faded away from him. No actual rows, no agression. He never has been agressive, because he knew I'd simply leave, and maybe because I always refused to live with him. For the past 5 years of a 10-year relationship I'd gained more and more distance, outside and inside, done therapy and only left, when I was strong enough to do so. Except for much sadness I've been coping well, not longing to go back.
Two days ago he rang. His brother-in-law died in an accident. I've known him and his wife very well. No doubt I must and want to attend the funeral. Since they had just moved away, we will both be going on the same plane. His family does not know that we have split up. That chap was about the only friend my ex ever had, except for me of course. It is horrible. I so dread seeing him and spending several hours with him, when I've just come out of this. It's not that I am afraid of falling back into his arms. I have just left decades of taking care of others behind, and I know that I must not fall into that trap again that my soft, empathic heart has often led me into. There's no advice for this, I know, I just must be strong. I just felt that posting this might help me with it.....hopefully.
Thank you so much
Janine
almostlydia
know the feeling
janine
Tough situation
janine
janine