grossot update - final hearing

Take a bow, N! Show is over and you've been found out!

Yesterday was a 9 hour final hearing. The verdict - the magistrate will make a decision about who the residential parent should be in 4 - 6 months! But he has ruled out the possibility of shared parenting (meaning N and I cannot agree so there should be a sole parent who makes the decisions). The options for time shared between us are:
1) what we are doing now (where DD is with me slightly more)
2) 50/50 time with each parent

So now let me tell you about what an ass N made of himself. (Don't we all love a good ass-got-figured-out story?)

1)At the very end the magistrate addressed the court. He said we needed to get the real estate figured out and sell the property to see if a foreclosure can be avoided. Both attorneys agreed on the name of a local real estate agent as did I concur. N spoke up and said, "no, I don't agree because that person has several houses on the market that haven't even had their first showing yet." Everyone in the court room laughed including the magistrate who spoke up and said, "And hence, we cannot have a shared parenting agreement!"
Of course, N just laughed along with the rest of us which made him look more stupid because we were laughing at him, not with him.

2) N testified that he pays his gf $500/ month rent (gf was not in the courtroom when this was said). When she took the stand she stated, "He gives me what he can when he can; I can't come up with an exact number"

3) Early on when N first took the stand, he denied having had an adulterous affair. My attorney then said, "Aren't you expecting a child?" N said, "Yes, but I've never had an affair!" My attorney just raised his eyebrows and N said, "Oh OK well, yea" and acted like it was a misunderstanding!

4) Gf takes the stand. She testifies that she and N's first date was not until August of 2009 and that she had no physical relationship with N prior to that. After she left the courtroom, N takes the stand again. My attorney said, "Isn't it true that you admitted to Dr.___________(the court appointed evaluating psychologist) that you had an affair in August of 2008?" N denies it saying, "could I have a copy of the report?" My attorney pointed out to N exactly where the report stated that adding that it said, "N stated to this evaluator that he thought the only way out of the marriage was to cheat on grossot so he could be the bad guy and she could save face". N said, "Oh! yea, that's true." So my attorney said, "So (gf) was mistaken when she said the first date was in August of '09?" N said, "no". My attorney said, "so the affair started in August of 08 and it was not with gf, is that correct?" N said, "no, it was with gf." My attorney said, "I see, Okay..."

5)Property Division- My attorney asked N if he realized there was a restraining order in place preventing N from removing items from the marital home. N said he was unaware of that. My attorney said "weren't you served the divorce papers?" N said "yes, I think so". My attorney said "you were?" N said, "yes". So I take the stand. N's attorney PRODUCED THE RESTRAINING ORDER AS AN EXHIBIT. He asked me to read to the courtroom where the restraining order prohibited N from removing items from the home. So I did. It very clearly stated just that. His attorney said, "so did N remove them from the home or just temporarily change their location?" I said, "What?" He moved on to the next exhibit, which was a list of the ITEMS N REMOVED FROM THE HOME!

6) I was to read down the list of these items labeled, "(N's) separate property. I explained why/how each and every item except 1 was marital property. his A asked me to state what I would like done with the property. I said, "N should be made to bring it back and we can auction it off" A said, "Do you know that will be a loss?" I said, "yes". A said, "what do you want with a lawnmower?" I said, "to mow the grass at my parents home or I could one day sell it". A said, "Oh, so you just want to sell stuff, is that it?" I said, "no not necessarily."

I will post more later this is too overwhelming.