as with my ex it was probably around half of them (no job/home, everything was someone else's fault... bitch was a term of endearment... and so on).
the one that made me laugh was where it says, "everyone hated him, parents, friends, dog".
My mum's dog, that liked everyone (well apart from the creepy sex-pest who lived down the street), didn't like him.
He was a staffordshire bull terrier and loved men especially (I tried to convert him but he wouldn't have it), but he just used to look at my ex as if he was some strange species he'd never encountered before (yes, a sociopath). I spent ages trying to convince him that the dog loved him, but I knew deep-down it would never happen.
My ex has so many of these. He's 40 and didnt have a car, always got fired from jobs (always someone elses fault), in debt, calls his mother constantly, called his ex a bitch, hangs the carrot of "its you and me against the world, babe."
But it all came about so slowly. It was like being put in a cold pot of water and every hour someone turns it up a degree. You dont feel the difference, but over time you get boiled to death!
I love that site! Before our break up I discovered that site and actually sent him the link. He wanted to know if I was trying to suggest something by it; innocently I suggested maybe he actually did have a conscience. Of course he wrote all those on that site as bitter women.
bitter, scorned, obsessed, PMS-ing, hormonal, hysterical, harpy, stalker, liar, and a heartless bitch!
Damn right I am - you treat me like a piece of garbage, a slave, a tissue and throw me away like I am nothing - and then LIE about it.
Answer the Clue Phone! LOL!!
(yeah love that site - and ladies DO NOT TRY TO EDUCATE this jerks... it's not possible)
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Barbara, absolutely!
When I confronted him with the information I gathered, of course he belittled me for spying on him. Then tried to twist it around that I had lost my mind and he couldn't be with a crazy person because he had a son to think of. Ha! As is if he spends time with that child. He uses his son so he can hit on all the mommies. In the few years I've known him, I've seen him weasel out of having to take his son to so many things.
He led me down the garden path, talked about marriage and a life together which I wasn't ready for. Over time I fell for him and all his lies just when I hit that comfort zone he pulled that rug out. No, I wasn't going to sit down and cry and take it lightly , it's against my nature. If he sees me as a crazy bitch that's fine by me.
I think James was talking about YOUR N.
not himself
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Don't feel bad...
Psycho-Boy had 81
ExNH had 67
Some of them were RIGHT ON.
IMHO? 10 would be enough!
Shows you how they brainwash you so much you don't even see this crap INSIDE the relationship. And why ZERO CONTACT is so important.
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The author says to run for the hills if they have two or more warning signs.
Is it bad that mine had approximately 44 of those traits?? =O
That was interesting...it helps to make you see the extent of their B.S.
Just a couple of my favorite quotes from Heartless Bitches' home page (and so true!):
Are you fed up with women who feel they HAVE to be in a "Relationship" in order to be whole, and will sacrifice their self-esteem and personal growth in order to avoid being on their own?
Are you tired of men and women who are emotional children, and won't accept responsibility for their actions or behavior?
Yes on BOTH COUNTS!
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I gave up counting....
My ex has so many of these.
Heartless-bitches site
Marie
Absolutley
Marie
not a chicken
Marie
HBI
the Red Flag list
the red flags?
Oops
2 of my favorites
Barbara
bunping this up for GB
my Ns had 55 traits . gulp
Check list
Red Flags List - how many did yours have?