So...I think I need to change my username to 'few steps back'...hope everyone's weekend was good, I haven't logged in here in a few days.
I feel like I need to get some stuff off my chest, and I'm hoping some of you have been through what I've done or can shed a bit of light on the situation.
For those of you following my situation last week...I'm about a month and a half of n/c, I'm feeling pretty much completely over him, but as I 'move forward' and began to date, it wasn't easy for me.
When I'm 'in the moment' on my date or after the date, I feel good...it's when my brain goes into 'over-analyze' mode that I need to take a step back or maybe get out of the house to clear my head. Who knows...anyways, here's what occured over the past little bit.
I saw 2 date guy one more time. And well, other than the idea that he's probably just as insecure as me (and you'll see why)...here's how it went down:
Ok, here's the situation.
A mutual friend set me up with a 'shy, nice guy' a couple of weeks ago.
We've had 3 dates.
Date #1 - Played pool, had fun, he asked me out for dinner at the end of the date for the following night.
Date #2 - Dinner at a classy restaurant, rented a movie and watched it at his place afterwards, no kiss.
Hadn't heard from him for a few days afterwards and mutual friends urged me to send him a msg letting
him know I was interested, he seemed excited and we met for Date #3.
Date #3 - (He texted me that he couldn't wait to see me that night, yada yada.)
A few drinks on the bar side of a restaurant (as part of my suggestion), bonfire at his place afterwards,
one thing lead to another and we ended up sleeping together. It was fun, we were shy...kinda tipsy and
he was worried I'd regret it later and he didn't want me to think he was only after one thing.
(Maybe it was the booze, maybe it had been a while, either way...there was no pressure, just 2 people attracted to one another and basically we were like a couple of happy, goofy teenagers, in a good way)
In the morning he was affectionate. I was more on the shy side as what occured was out of my character. After I left and once I got home, I saw these texts from him on my
"Hey, had a good time last night. Hope you don't have any regrets and hope I didn't pressure you
into doing anything you didn't want to do. Have fun shopping today. By the way, you looked amazing last night"
"you are too cute, no regrets & I can't stop smiling, enjoy your Sunday ;-)"
Nice, ya I'm pretty excited, you have a good day too"
"my turn... hope I didn't scare you off, I have fun with you and I'd like to see you again ...anyhoo, hope your
day was good, ttyl"
And no reply....and now it's the following morning.
The guy's wife left him a year ago for someone else. Mutual friends after our second date were like, you need to let him know you're interested, he's insecure
right now. I'm the first person he's dated since the ex-wife split.
So it's like, if I had left it be he'd think I wasn't interested. Now it's clear I'm still interested and he's backed off or
He runs his own business and is a busy guy, but it takes a few seconds to send a msg. I like the guy, we do
have fun and I didn't think this would happen, I thought he was into me.
The one friend who pressured me into contacting him again was like, you're a confident beautiful girl, life is short and sometimes you need to take risks in order to give something a little nudge or move on, they can turn out one way or the other, but at least you'll know.
Aurrrrgh. Thoughts? (Please be gentle!! lol)