HDRider Story

It started around June 2012. I needed a place to store my motorcycle and a friend of mine said he knew a guy with a garage that I could use. I would go there often but I would never run into him because of timing. Then one day I was in his garage and he came out and introduced himself. Lets call him Satan from here on out. He is 6'4" blonde, blue eyed and nice build. His charisma and the way he carried himself was captivating. He is super smart (engineer) and has a high position in a large company. The only thing wrong was that he was engaged. But that didn't stop him from persuing me. He was relentless. Now I am not without fault here. Yes did I flirt with him, but when he made his advances I would say to him stop you are basically married. He would then make comments to me that his fiancee wasn't smart, couldn't have a conversation with her and he was done with her. Now that lead me to believe that it was over with them. I had my head so far up my butt I couldn't see straight. I was falling hard and fast for him. Once a week we would do things together, and I was under the impression he was ending it with his fiancee. Three months into our weekly getting together he said we had to talk. Satan said he had a conversation with the fiancee and it didn't go well. I asked him what he was going to do and he said he didn't know. I was devastated. I told him I'll get my bike and stuff out of his house the next day. He texted me that he was sorry he couldn't commit to me. I didn't respond. He texted me two days later and wanted to take me out to dinner and have a talk. I went and he said that it was our first date. I found out that a friend of his said to him "If you can see yourself having a conversation your fiancee 25 years from now then go get her back." Obviously he didn't. Of course I felt like a Queen but on the other hand I felt sorry for the fiancee.

Our real relationship started September 2012. It was wonderful. I thought I hit the jackpot and I was so lucky to have stumbled upon him. Smart, funny, professional. And get this because I had a motorcycle he was getting one too!! Great!! RED FLAG In fact he got two. Come to find out later about his fiancee, she is an avid runner so he started running marathons with her, exercised and hiked with her. He even changed his religion to hers. RED FLAGS Totally mirroring both of us.

We spent Christmas away together down south. It was the best Christmas I had in 10 years. How great this man was. He told me that he loved me right away RED FLAG and said he had never said that to anyone so early in a relationship. In February he said to me that I could stay at his house as much as I wanted. So slowly I started staying there more and more. I didn't move my furniture but I had brought my clothes and kitchen items. And then I had my 8 year old son stay there a couple nights a week. BAD IDEA I could tell Satan was on edge when my son was there. Satan would give him mean stares and pick on him a little. My son was very uncomfortable. RED FLAG Found out from fiancee later that Satan verbally abused her son.

About 5 or 6 months into relationship I started putting digs on me and would say things mean in front of his co workers about me. Now Im a pretty out spoken person so I of course shot back. He didn't like this but quieted down. No more compliments were coming my way either. He would periodically text his fiancee that would go right up my butt. I said I thought you were through with her and he would say I still really like her and if she needs help I want to be there. Always keeping that toe in the door I would say. RED FLAG Whenever we would go out and if he saw her, he would stare at her and that would fly up my butt too. He would stare at other women and was constantly scanning the room.
We would always sit at the bar to eat and if there was a really pretty girl next to him he would immediately start a conversation with her. He would tell her that he was an engineer and what his job position was, etc. One time he even turned his back to me. The disrespect was building with me. But me being an idiot we would get in little fights over this and then I would let it go. He even said to me that I need to find someone that is blind or just find someone else period.

Between not trusting him because how our relationship started, seeing all the women's numbers in his phone, always having his phone in his pocket, his disrespecting me and the way he treated my son, the tension was building in me. I could feel something wasn't right.

People had made comments to me about him that he was a perpetual bachelor and I just never felt secure in the relationship. He told me once that he hadn't found what he is looking for and then the last time he said I don't know what I'm looking for. I called him the fisherman because it seemed like he always had a fishing rod out looking for a new woman. What a fool I was.

In October 2013 my girlfriend and I went out and then he met his friend. We all met up over drinks. As we are sitting there I overhear him talking to my friend about going skiing and making plans. I got pissed quick. His friend so the look on my face. I told Satan to F off and dismissed him with my hand. When we were out in the parking lot Satan's friend said everything revolves around Satan and that I have to understand that. RED FLAG Huge fight when we got home.

Last thing that happened: Out for dinner and drinks. Go to the last bar and ex fiancee there with her boyfriend that he hates. Satan tells ex fiancee that her boyfriend is in his parking spot. I say can you please stop, do we/i need to leave. He gets so upset and starts raising his voice. I step in front of him and tell him not here because I have clients on the other side of the room. We leave and on the way home I yell at him that how dare he pick a fight with me in a public place. He gets in my face and starts yelling tell me what I did, I did nothing wrong. I had enough of his disrespect so I disrespected him…….I punched him in the lip and gave him a fat lip.

I cried, said I was sorry and tried to work things out. He even had tears in his eyes and someone told me he looked visibly shaken even a week later when they asked were I was. I wrote him letters because he is hard to talk to. I poured out my heart to him and told him I loved him and we should work through this. He said he needed space so I moved all my stuff out. I would go visit periodically and after two weeks he said look how far we have come and things are getting better. He gave me a kiss and hug. Two days later another change. He started distancing himself and really protecting his phone. I was getting more emotional as time went by. One month from the date of the punch I drove by his house at night and he had another woman there that spent the weekend. He was lying to my face the entire time. I was so hurt and three months later still am. Talk about no feelings. But then I knew that from when he left the ex fiancee and moved on to me. There wasn't even the slightest bit of sorrow. My own stupid fault. I got caught up in my emotions.

Now looking back………..That punch to his face was the best thing that happened. I ended the roller coaster ride with satan and the bas*ard got what he deserved. I'm the only one that ever stood up to him. I regret telling him I was sorry and writing those foolish letters and trying to get back with him. Thank god it didn't work. My son is much happier back out my house he says he feels more comfortable here. However I'm still feeling the effects from that relationship and obsess about it. It does get a little better every day though.

I have not had any contact with him since the day after Thanksgiving. I am dead to him because I texted him that I talked to his ex fiancee and told her what really happened. I'm sure that pissed him off. He has found a new victim. I feel sorry for her but I say good riddance to him.