He called the police tonight

stop focusing on him. focus on YOUR life, what makes YOU happy. he will never give you closure. i tried that today too - an emotional start which he shut right down. they cannot accept that they did anything wrong. in the years i've known my N he's never apologized, and he's had PLENTY to apologize for. Wouldn't that have been nice? well, it didn't happen to me, and it didn't happen to anyone else here and it won't happen to you either. so, let's keep ourselves out of trouble, not focused on him in any way, and focused on our lives and what makes us happy and fulfilled. sounds simple but it's not. sounds easy but it's not. but it's the only way out of a lifetime of pain and misery.

I'm so sorry this all happened. If I may say one thing about closure. I too thought it might come from the ex N. But, CLOSURE COMES FROM WITHIN US. When we say, enough is enough. When we move on to cultivate a better life...THAT IS CLOSURE. Seeing them get theirs...or apologize to us...or whatever it is that we deem as closure, could potentially help. But, will it erase the abuse? No. Closure comes from within. And blocking someone's car in to get closure, or a half assed apology, if that...is not going to bring you anymore peace. So work on yourself. He's a jerk. Always will be. He plays you like a fiddle. Don't let him anymore. Please stay NC. That's the first step to rediscovering your lift, who you are, and what you want out of life. EVENTUALLY, YOU WILL FIND CLOSURE. And get this. When you have moved on? He'll come around. That's what happens often times...but the beauty will be? You will have moved on and you won't be upset anymore. You wlil maintain your dignity, and NC ...he will no longer matter. Remember..closure comes from within. We bring our own closure to the situation. Take care, and I hope things get better for you.

There is no closure, no coming to reasonable terms or understanding with a Narc or psycopath. They foole their victims all along. They have no rules, no truth, no nothing. They lie all the way through, and they do this to the other woman, actually to everyone in their life. All you can do it get away. Do not let them drive you to the brink. Not worth it, pick up, move on. The fantasy they painted is not reality. For you, for anyone they are associated with.

I read your story and can understand your confusion, disappointment, anger and pain. But please choose you! What I mean is that you could have been arrested for that encounter and you need to get a grip. He is not worth this! Where I live, I know for certain that you would have been arrested and charged with a crime! Think about that long and hard. You would have spent the night in jail, posted bail in the morning, followed by hiring an attorney, etc., etc. You've been through enough hell already! Next time, put the car keys down and come here instead. Please. xox

I'm swinging between reaming your ass out for acting like a psycho and wanting to hug you because you were played like a puppet. You were the aggressor in everyway in THIS intense. There is nothing you can do to fix this....except VOW to NEVER go near him again. In one evening you gave him all the ammo he will ever need to discredit your side of the story and justify his. He pushed your buttons in perfect timing and sequence to drive you over the edge. CHANGE YOUR BUTTONS

He is an abuser plain and simple.. Yes, you must accept you never get the closure you are hoping for.. Work the steps.. Therapy is key.. One on one secessions with Goldie might be your best option..To set it up send her a PM You are struggling .. Talking with Golide ( love her) may help you extensively .. Now you Must face reality in regards to this situation.. Honor yourself and never speak to this Assclown again.. Suck it up.. Because you deserve to be free.. It's a process.. But if you play by our rules in time you will see a positive change... Ugh! Stay Strong Hunter

Are you in therapy? Please please get help. Hasn't this user and loser and liar taken enough from you? If you do not shift the focus immediately you will allow him to take you down. If you re-read your post you will see that your behavior gives him ammunition to bring a great deal of problems into your life...especially with the law. You don't need that over some manipulative loser who clearly does not want to engage with you in any way. Believe him! You won't get what you want from him ever. You will ge the opposite! Trust me on this I have been through it! Skb, please let it go. Drop it. Please do not contact him again. You are treading dangerous ground. Have you bought Lisa's book? The steps really do work! Would you consider a one-on-one with Goldie? Please consider it, Skb, as I am concerned about you. You do not need to "forgive him" nor do you need to "get closure". He's already provided that as per above. He's not worth the risks you are taking, dear Skb. Please do not contact him again. It's all about you now dearheart. Most sincerely, (not) spinning. BECAUSE I'M COMPLETELY NO CONTACT

He will never give you the comfort of closure. I completely understand your frustration, but no-one on the Outside can understand where your anger comes from. He will only make it look like you are the insane one, which is completely unfair after what he's done to you. You told him the truth about his arrogance and couldn't bear to hear it, thats probably why he set you up for another fall to abuse you some more. He doesn't care about anything or anyone else except getting his supply and revenge! He might have hurt you but now, stamp him out of your life once and for all, and please please don't contact him again. He is an energy leech and won't stop at anything to sabotage you. The OW will soon find this out for herself. One day the next woman will be calling the police for her. No matter how sickly sweet or casual he is, Please do not respond to him. He can go to hell. Where he belongs. Use your kindness and forgiveness to nurture yourself now. You deserve it, he doesn't. Stay strong and positive.....

He will give you peace...IF YOU STICK TO NC......he doesnt care about you forgiving him.... and NO WAY SHOULD YOU BE APOLIGISING TO HIM.... HE IS EVERYTHING YOU SAY HE IS CRUEL AND HOLLOW...SO ITS HIM NOT YOU....PLEASE DONT APOLIGISE TO HIM... HE IS NOT THE ONE ON THIS BOARD IN GREAT PAIN YOU ARE... NC IS THE ONLY WAY TO BE.....