How to Break Up with Someone

I just read this article on Lemon Drop by Lori Fradkin - it's about the right way to break up with someone - she says:

That's when I found he had come to the same conclusion I had -- and decided not to drag it out.

I knew that something was up when he called rather than texted. And after a little small talk, he got to the point: He explained his feelings like a mature, straightforward (dare I say it?) man, and we agreed that we were actually on the same page. Such a small gesture, but those five minutes managed to magically remove any awkwardness or hard feelings down the road -- and even left the door open for friendship.

Would it have been harder if I'd been crazy about him? Absolutely. Was my ego still a little bruised? Sure. Did I proceed to drink a bottle of wine while watching "Gossip Girl" and rejoin JDate that night? Perhaps.

But at the same time, I was grateful to him, relieved to have an unambiguous answer and be able to move on.

I enjoyed the article because it discusses a NORMAL FUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP - this type of break up is one you will NEVER get with a narcissist. A narcissist will NEVER have an adult conversation with you. He will NEVER provide closure. So many times we believe if we just speak to them one more time, he will say the things we need to hear - he will make sense out of the situation. But this is living in fantasy land. After being in a relationship with a narcissist, we forget what healthy relationships are. We think what we experience is normal. It is not. There is no reason to go back one more time to give the relationship closure. There is NEVER closure with a narcissist. We need to learn to let go and move on without the answer - because it will never come.