how long is NC suppose to go on for?
how long is NC suppose to go on for?
Ok, before everybody jumps in and says "forever" let me try to explain why I am asking this.
I understand the point of NC and that it entails absolute NC (ie no checking emails in the junk folder, etc.). NC is suppose to give us a time to heal, to look at ourselves w/o the white noise of the toxic relationship in the background. It's the only way to disengage ourselves from the PDI. Etc. Etc.
Ok.
But, in reality, does NC really last forever? Does he really disappear from your life, your heart, your mind, for good? Does it really work that way? I would love for it to be like this. But I have a feeling it doesn't...
So...perhaps I am still thinking in my small little box, and not able to accept and see the big picture, but is there such a thing as a "good time" after NC to finally say the things you wanted to say? Perhaps to give yourself some closure?
Is there a "right" amount of NC? Not as in is there a magic number, but have people found that after a certain amount of NC, they felt it was ok to stop with the blocking and junk mail forwarding and all of that. NC feels like a lot of work for me right now. I know those of you who have spoke to me know I am struggling with NC because my N has been hoovering like mad.
This NC process has been really tough. Today is day 5 of NC for me. But I have been checking the junk mail so I guess these days don't count. Last night I was really struggling with a lot of things and feeling a whirlwind of emotions. Found out that a woman he promised to remove from FB, he did not. (I caught him cybersexing with her, while we were dating strong.) It really broke me. And it took all strength not to write him and to get angry and to write to her as well.
What does NC look like after a while and does it remain NC indefinitely?
:( I'm having a really hard time.
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Dazed & Seeking
NC
Nc is a state of mind more
scoop, after 16 months of NC,
Scoop is right
i get this. i have the urge
Dazed , my hunch is the anger
Scoop
It really is forever.
Dazed
idealk, i don't think you're
Dazrd
staying NC
25 years? My Ex N will be
wiser
it still blows me away that
Dazed
Keeping NC
Bitter-sweet, thank you for
For dazedandseeking
yes 25 years later
Neverlookback
Whenever
neverlookback, thanks so much
The part about if you get in
NLB
neverlookback this post is so good
neverlookback
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