It hit me like a brick.
Something changed in me that allowed me to see the truth. All of it.
He is not a poor, tortured soul, he is a parasite and I am not willing to be his host anymore.
It came as a relief somewhat. Disappointing and painful, but a relief all the same.
He is not going to change, he can't and all he is to me is poison.
Xoxo
Someone who is loving and caring and always has the hope in our minds that they will change, so we keep holding out hope for that , but it never changes. But always in the back of our mind we think they will. The important thing is that you know you are not beneath him! My ex told me during the D&D after he hugged me lo he said "we'll talk" I shook my head no. and he said it again. But I know he said it because I always , always caved after a week and contacted him, so he probably figured "she'll be back" but guess what I didn't run back to him apologizing for shit again that I didn't do! I ran here to this place! So now join the rest of us, and once again go back to you NC ok? We all have out week moments, but we get stronger as time goes by and for me it helps that he pissed me off by telling me he had to flush 7 years of his life down the toilet! What an ass! And just by him saying that makes me hate him, but there are times I do want to contact him just to tell him what a worthless POS he is, but i know I would regret it, he isn't worth the air I breath anymore.
You are not nor do you look like an ASSHOLE ok. You did what any person who is at the end of their rope would do in my opinion, I hope you feel better now that you got to vent at him! Now start to heal yourself with the rest of us, we are here and we are all a mess but we are all together in this, and we are all here for you! You did what you felt you had to do, it is done, now follow us in moving forward, if you need help sleeping go to the store in the vitamin isle and get some melatonin , it is a natural chemical your brain produced to help you sleep, i use it all the time. It really helps
I just know that I am so much better than that.
Screaming at me on the phone because I spoke my mind, me pleading with him to listen to me, spurting out all kinds of bullshit about how he doesn't understand how it is for me.
Damn damn damn.
Please tell me why they do not go away even though they have pretty much made it clear that you are not what they want.
And then want to maintain a shoot the shit every once in a while on the phone deal.
And then get offended when you explain that's not what you want.
His problem is , is that you SPOKE your mind! And you probably threw his ass for a loop lolI think they want to stay friends because they have no one else! Of course he doesn't understand how it is for you, YOUR THE VICTOM
! he is the ENEMY! He is having what I like to call a DUMB ASS ATTACK! Try not to let it get to you, your not beneath him. you said what you had to , so now lets move forward shall we?? :) And you are so right you are better than that!
I have never come out before and called him on all his bullshit, he's never been that angry before...
Except when I sent him an email critiquing his online dating profile... But that was worth it.
Unbelievable, I've never been so viciously attacked before for just speaking the truth. You wouldn't have believed it.
Strike that - almost all of you have experienced it.
I always thought he stayed in contact because he didn't want to hurt my feelings.
Wrong again.
When I called out the ex-Psych prof on his BS, I was very cold, calm, clinical with him. Of course he RAGED... and I stood there, bemused.
My responses would be-
Contemptuous eye roll
Creepy smile
Being patronizing and condescending
If he was going to attack me for telling the truth, I was going to be like a mountain lion on the attack! And mountain lions aren't exactly gentle when they pounce.
What SCARED him was when I was smiling. He'd coldly command "STOP SMILING!" and my response, with a Cheshire cat like smile, was "Why do you want me to stop smiling?" using a voice I would one day use with my toddler... but this was on a guy pushing 40.
Sometimes the best defense is a very good offense. When I acted like his narcissistic injuries were loads o' fun, he kind of went running... the other way.
It looks like I am going to have to live vicariously through your much better handling of the rage.
No do over for me...
I didn't handle it well but at least I am committed to not having the opportunity to do it better next time...
:)
When I was COWARDLY, and I regret it. During the final D&D, he and I were arguing, and I had to take care of some bank issues... I headed off to go, and he commanded, "DON'T LEAVE!" I stayed. At one point, he ordered me to sit on the stairs... I did (but I did zone out)
I really didn't stand my ground til after I met his girlfriend. How she infused me with courage I'll never know. Once I realized that I wasn't the ex-P's girlfriend, was never going to be his girlfriend, I went into "I shall do as I please" mode.
When it came to the rage, I went the passive-aggressive route. I'd be angry... but I'd be oh so nice about it. Made him look even MORE crazy.
Blindfaith
Someone who is loving and
My DLB
You are phenomenal and I adore you
His problem is , is that you
Onward it is...
When he raged
Susan...
Believe me, there are times..