I caved . . . sort of

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#1 Sep 13 - 3PM
helldweller
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I caved . . . sort of

So the narc has been trying to talk to me for three days. I finally answered him today, because he started with a line I hadn't heard before:

Narc: "There were some things I wanted to ask you about, but we stopped talking before I could."

Me: "What things?"

Narc: "Never mind."

Me: "Right. never mind."

Narc: "One of the things it's too late for now, but the others are more important anyway."

Me: "What things?"

Narc: "Can I see you later tonight? I'll tell you then."

Me: "You can see me right now, out in front."

Narc: "Later tonight, baby."

Me: "Why not now?"

Narc: "I'm working."

Me: "Your car is here."

Narc: "I took the L (elevated train) to work."

Me: "Why?"

Narc: "Why what?"

Me: "Why did you take the L?"

Narc: "To get to work."

Over and out.

Two hours later, the narc's babysitter came home early from work and went to pick up the foster child. An hour after that, the narc brother's car drove up with all three narcs inside--and golf clubs.

As an interesting aside, my ex husband picked up my daughters at school today, and he said the babysitter came up to him and complimented him on his shirt (she knows who he is and they have never spoken), then said hello to my girls. What's that about?

Sep 13 - 8PM
helldweller
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And

I'm really sorry I upset you guys. Don't waste your energy. I'm not upset. Really. Just sort of indignant. I have read all over this board before how, after you go NC, they come up with these crazy pronunciations of things they never said before to reel you back in. Yes, I knew better, but I also thought, when I was reading those things, "He'll never say anything like that to me, no matter what." I really wasnt' expecting him to say anything out of the ordinary as he is just so stubborn. I was kind of ready for the cancer thing again ("no, really, this time I DO have cancer"), but that's about it. It was a very strange feeling to hear him say he had some things to tell me and ask me, important things "about us." What a dodo I was. I wonder what sort of fight he would have picked so he wouldn't have to admit he'd had nothing at all to say?
Sep 13 - 8PM (Reply to #9)
almostlydia
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You have to remember that he

You have to remember that he has profiled you. He knows what he has withheld saying to you and so he is going to use it now because he knows it is exactly what you want to hear. If you have to respond at least tell him that you require $250 per blow job now so that at least you get something out of it:) That is the most you can hope for. almostlydia

almostlydia

Sep 13 - 8PM
helldweller
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Janet and others

Thanks for the support. I'm ok still, just had a few tears and a bit choked up after that today. It's still hard to believe that someone could say, after four years: "I am so unhappy since you left me and I would do anything for another chance, but I can't talk to you about it today because I'm golfing and then going for cocktails and dinner in my old apartment next door, where I'm boarding, rent free, the woman who hates you but who is raising the child we were going to adopt. However, I will be free to come over to your house after that for a blow job and some vodka." I just can't put my finger on why it makes me so mad instead of just making me laugh. I guess it's the insult of it all.
Sep 13 - 8PM (Reply to #7)
Janet
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Because it is not funny. He

Because it is not funny. He hurt you. He betrayed your trust. It is not easy to accept, we all know that, but when you trust yourself enough to be fully ready to start recovery, you will learn to accept that he is incurably mentally disordered. Peace. J

Peace. J

Sep 13 - 8PM
almostlydia
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It was complete bullshit. I

It was complete bullshit. I know you know this. Stop this shit now. You knew but you caved. God I could punch his fucking ass myself for being so damn obvious. I am not using any **** because I am so damn mad. almostlydia

almostlydia

Sep 13 - 7PM
Janet
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When are you going to commit

When are you going to commit to NC? Peace. J

Peace. J

Sep 13 - 5PM
Qing Yuan
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OMG, the mad twisty

OMG, the mad twisty conversation style. the beating around the bush and then cutting it up by not actuallly finishing what he was actaully dying to say. It casues confusion and is open to the misinterpratation they love to get into. I hate the way these jurks have such dangerous social skills. Its just manipulation game playing rant. What a idiot! Good on you for being so tough. x
Sep 13 - 3PM
wholeagain
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He's

such an annoying wanker! What a high school ploy. I have important questions for you but NEVER MIND. Oh brother! Pleeease don't go over there, he's so full of it! You be strong Ms. Helldweller! xoxo
Sep 13 - 3PM
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I'm sorry helldweller. He

I'm sorry helldweller. He is saying whatever he can to get your attention. He feels he's losing control and his Narc supply. He is trying to get your attention. You're really doing great! Good for you!