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#1 Sep 11 - 8PM
truthseeker
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I'm shaking

just got a letter in the mail. I have been NC since July. He has been blocked by e-mail and phone. I really thought it was finally done. Thought he was finally gonna leave me alone. We met 2 years ago this weekend . He sent an anniversary card with a copy of his journal entry from that day. I ended it with him May of 09. Like all the stories I have read on here. I was so impressed in the beginning. I thought, that it was because of his age, that he didn't play games. Very early into our relationship he set a wedding date. In MAy when he told me to just give all of my things away and then said this is not a fairytale. You can forget about September. You are no princess and the glass slipper doesn't fit. I broke up with him. He showed up at my door the following weekend with fake ass tears. The only genuine emotion he has ever shown is anger. Just like you guys. I got sucked back in. After changing my phone # he left a note on my door ,I took this as a sign of love. Now know he has no concept of that emotion. So between May of 09 and till July of this year, there has been constant push pull. I discovered this site after I became NC. Like a lot of you I struggled and got sucked in over and over. Finally accepting everything that ever came out of his mouth was a lie ,is what has made it possible for me to maintain NC. I have slept this day away, just to not think about his ass. he had a woman on both coast and me in the middle. I found out on Father's day this year about the OW. Granted he has had every right to move on, I don't begrudge that. But staying in contact with me and trying to convince me how miserable his existence has been since we have been apart is sick and disgusting. Every text there is a FB posting that says something completely opposite. Went on vacation and told me he spent that time thinking really hard about us. Oh really your FB wall says otherwise. He had no idea I knew and lied so effortlessly. Don't wory I know this anniversary card is just a ploy for any kind of response. Even a lived one. Not gonna do it. It takes what it takes. The I'm lying to your face was the catalyst for me.

Sep 11 - 11PM
agnesmurphy17
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Mine, too

Mine acted DEVASTATED to my face & to mutual acquaintances that I had cruely abandoned him & our marriage vows. Meanwhile, he had a new woman installed in yet another instant relationship the weekend I moved out. Kept that a secret from the people with whom he acted DEVASTATED with enough tears to fill an ocean. Stop reading his FB page. NC - NC. Anyhow, sounds like you've got him figured out real good. And he's a piece of work sending you something on the anniversary. Just forget him. He's hoovering you. Don't fall for it!
Sep 11 - 11PM (Reply to #7)
truthseeker
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agnesmurphy17

NC has been since July when I uncovered the truth. July was the last time I looked at his FB. Have seen no point.It's over. I have thought about plenty I wish I could say,like instead of sending me a copy of a journal entry,why don't you send me a copy of your phone bill instead. Just thought it,didn't do it.
Sep 11 - 11PM
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I got one too

Funny eh? No access to me via phone or email so he sent a (typed) letter, which I opened because I was expecting some info on my car. Very brief (didn't know he was capable!) saying that he intends to move back to this town next year and thought I should know. What I *know* is that he'll pick four other cities to move to before the year is over! He's like that. Ploy for response, as you said. Not gonna give it! But getting a letter is hard isn't it? You may be shaking but you sound centered and committed to your own growth and health. Good for you!
Sep 11 - 11PM (Reply to #5)
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wholeagain

Yeah in addition to the copy of his journal entry. he sent a typed letter.First line quote"there are dates that will always be in a person's mind. Carved in stone into the grey matter,left there till the winds and sun have eroded them. He should travel to OZ and ask for a brain and a heart. All of us on the site got the courage. Thanks for the support.
Sep 11 - 8PM
almostlydia
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Good for you, truthseeker.

Good for you, truthseeker. Always remember they never let go of a good supply. It is such a freaking game it seems. I wonder sometimes if that is not all it is with them - a freaking game. It just sucks in every way. It is one we can never win. It's interesting that your name is truthseeker because that is exactly what I was for the last 4 or 5 yrs. of my 10 yr. relationship - looking for the truth. And finally, in the last 6 mos, I believe I have found it. Stay strong. We are all here for you. almostlydia

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Sep 11 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
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almostlydia

Thank you, just reading your words lessens the anxiety. They just can't stand it when we resole to act as if they never existed. Any response just feeds them. There were times when I could have anihilated that man with my words. Now know it's pointless. I use too many syllables.
Sep 11 - 9PM (Reply to #3)
almostlydia
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Tomorrow is another day.

Tomorrow is another day. You will be ok. It took a long time to stop wanting to annihilate him with words. I knew he knew how to hit the precise buttons to get some results. And he did for a long time. I enjoyed it because it was anger at its finest and I needed to get it all out. But now I realize the better result comes from silence because that is what I truly want in return. I want no more of him in any private or unknown calls or text or anything. I just want no more of him in my life. almostlydia

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