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#1 Jan 21 - 7AM
Klarity Belle
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Interesting Articles on behaviours of controllers

This article relates to a borderline controller. Very good.
At the bottom there is a link to a chapter from a book called 'Romeo's bleeding' which is also excellent.

http://www.heartlessbitches.com/rants/manipulator/special.shtml

Jan 21 - 7AM
Barbara (not verified)
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Klarity Belle

I've posted that here before - but it is well worth a read Borderlines are VERY MUCH like Narcs in many aspects, except they are treatable. - here's more of what you mentioned: http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/03/30/mirror-men http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/03/30/when-love-four-letter-word ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Jan 21 - 1PM (Reply to #9)
alfrebob
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I love this article. I have

I love this article. I have seen it before. Couple of questions......... at the bottom it says it can be forwarded on to someone..........I have someone in mind. Has anyone done this? Would recipient know who it was from?
Jan 21 - 1PM (Reply to #10)
Barbara (not verified)
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alfrebob

yes the recipient knows who sent it - your IP shows do NOT forward it to the narc - it would be lost on him ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Jan 21 - 1PM (Reply to #11)
alfrebob
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Barbara

Was going to send it to the GF,
Jan 21 - 2PM (Reply to #12)
moving on
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gf

If I was still contacting the gf then I would have TOTALLY sent this to her. She is a smart girl and this would have really helped her out. Ah well - I've done my part (Semi-Justice).
Jan 21 - 5PM (Reply to #13)
Barbara (not verified)
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sending along articles to....

DO NOT DO IT she'll know EXACTLY where it came from DO NOT TELL THE GF's - keep reading this forum back a few months about the exes react when getting this stuff ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Jan 21 - 11AM (Reply to #2)
Klarity Belle
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Mirror Men

It's a fantastic article, in fact I posted this one at the BPD site! Some fantastic resources here on this site Barbara, I enjoy reading and learning from them, thank you. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4

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"The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran

"That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung

http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4

Jan 21 - 11AM (Reply to #3)
moving on
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Good Reading

These articles are great! Really help put things back in perspective when your mind starts to focus on contact.
Jan 21 - 9PM (Reply to #4)
Amazed
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It IS ALL ABOUT THEIR CONTROL,,WOW

Get this!! I am going to read those articles,,but get this,,it just dawned on me IT IS all about their domination and control over you!!! That is their game!! It is worse than a game, it is at attempt at destruction of your soul. My exN would have me take time out from my work, and sit with him somewhere. I needed to work,,but he would pull me away,,then start telling me all sorts of 'hypnotizing' type stuff,,getting my mind off of what was positive, and what I needed to do. It was like it was part of his job, to disarm me, and take me down. This is REALLY SERIOUS STUFF HERE!!! Are you kidding me!!!
Jan 21 - 9PM (Reply to #5)
Barbara (not verified)
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Yes

http://www.lisaescott.com/2010/01/21/forcing-submission ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Jan 21 - 9PM (Reply to #6)
Amazed
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It is not about their pleasure

I also think, that their 'relationships' you can't even call them relationships,,are not about pleasure. They do not want to take you out to dinner, buy you the ring, go for some travels,, because of the pleasure. I think ultimately, it is all about control. That is it.
Jan 21 - 10PM (Reply to #7)
Barbara (not verified)
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it is all about control

yes. always. ALWAYS. http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2006/03/dealing-with-control-freaks.html ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Jan 21 - 10PM (Reply to #8)
Amazed
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When "making them feel better" is at your expense

Interesting how in the end, making them feel better, or 'fixing them' it is always at the victim's expense, however they will try to turn it around as otherwise.