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#1 Jun 16 - 7AM
Anonymous (not verified)
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Just playing the victim

"Gullablegull - you have a lot of nerve stirring up drama again today. You need to find something more productive to do with your time. Those of you who want to wallow in your misery can find another forum. This board does not need the negative energy you bring to our site. The people who remain on this board are the people who are interested in moving on and taking back control of their life.

As I have said from day one, I am not interested in playing the victim. If you are, join another forum. This is not the place for you. "

My signing off with a respectful opinion was a clue that I am finding more productive things to do with my time Lisa. Your childish tantrum above is exactly why. If you insult and ban everyone whom doesn't always agree with you, then you should rightfully name the forum the same as your song..... "It's All About Me". You have been inconsiderate and disrespectful to many of the victims here, yes, victims. That's what you don't seem to understand. Not an act we choose to play the main part in some of us, but one bestowed on us. This place used to be a place that recognized that. It used to be a way to help all out of their misery, and not insult them for it. You don't have to ban me , I'm not coming back. I wish you all well, I really do, and hope that all of you live a very long and happy life.(I formed my opinion on my own...from all that spinning straw stuff, and when you called us drama mamas)

Jun 16 - 8AM
Allie
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Thank you Lisa

for letting me back on the board :) After I defended you against NarcNarc's venom last week, Barbara took it upon herself within an hour to promptly delete my account. I was patient, knowing she would eventually self destruct...the bitter ones always do. Wow, it didn't take long. Makes me wonder just how many times she deleted members who didn't agree with her or simply just p*ssed her off that day, lol. It would be exhausting being that bitter. It smacks of Barbara when members post in her defense. Pseudonyms? Though I agree with one thing, she did provide good links and articles written by others, everything else said in her defense is rubbish...supportive? tough love? Barbara was the most hateful person I've ever come across, and I'm including my 2 past narcs! If your idea of "support" is WAKE UP AND ANSWER THE CLUE PHONE! among all her other words of wisdom, maybe she'll make a forum just for you...you can be called the "Bitter Bunch". You're entitled to miss her, you're also entitled to go find her. I am glad she's gone, and as for the suggestion that Jessika be the new moderator, I didn't know whether to crack up or gag at that post. She hides it behind her "I'm a psychologist" crap, but she is almost as nasty as Barbara. Definitely not operating from a place of light which is what we NEED on this forum! Let in the light!

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Jul 13 - 5AM (Reply to #2)
ms_jeeves
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light

I've been trying to piece together what happened, as I mentioned in an earlier comment, I've been pretty much gone (voluntarily) since shortly after Barbara moved in here (I emailed Lisa about it back then). I was about 6 weeks from the "devalue and discard" point and very vulnerable. I knew that kind of bitterness wasn't for me and it seemed to be in stark contrast to Lisa's kindness. I like Lisa's style quite a bit and was impressed to read about her coaching philosophy and the training she's had. She really does tell it like it is while giving a message of beauty and hope. Allie's comment cracked me up... to her it might have seen like a quick self-destruction... to me it was a little over 15 months! I know this is old news to all of you regulars but I look forward to more good things from her.
Jul 13 - 9PM (Reply to #5)
almostlydia
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bitterness is the vibe i

bitterness is the vibe i got. I divorced my last husband because i refused to become a bitter woman. I have no intention of ever becoming a bitter woman. Negative breeds negative as in the first post above. I, for one, have had 10 years of that and have begun to sever friendships over it. We are all climbing out of an incredible psychological hole, and impersonal advice tainted by bitterness is of no help to me.

almostlydia

Jul 13 - 8PM (Reply to #3)
better off
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Hi Ms Jeeves! I have often

Hi Ms Jeeves! I have often wondered about you and how you were doing. Glad to hear from you.
Jul 14 - 6AM (Reply to #4)
James (not verified)
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Barbara

I was wondering about Barbara not seeing any thread nor posts from her. I still not sure what happen but sure I get some answers later. Still I too saw some things in her writing and ways she related to some members. Telling and sometimes yelling at members to go and "stay" NC is more like telling a young child not to help themselves to cookies. The more we tell the child not too the more the child will want the cookie. Sorry but NC like much of what we do for ourselves is a personal choice and should be respected. Still I am sorry about Barbara and hope she will resolve whatever issues she has within herself. Personal healing and growth is something we all need here and in our personal and professional life but then again it's a "personal choice".