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#1 Aug 20 - 3PM
Amy
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Just sold the ring

Because of a family emergency, the jeweler had been out of town. Did well on it.

It was so strange - I didn't sleep last night, thinking of all the things the N will say to me when I eventually run into him. How I will have to tell him that this was finality for me.

I felt kinda bad today - sad even. Then my doctor called to tell me I need another biopsy for the high-risk HPV he gave me (he gave me high risk and low risk - I get to live with THAT). I didn't feel nearly as bad.

I was shaking at the bank. I didn't cry though! That's a good sign. It just felt very real. I didn't know if I would have the strength to do it, but I did. I know selling it is unforgivable to him. It means I am never giving him another chance - ever!

Thank God for great friends. We have a girls night IN tonight at one of my friends' houses. I already hit the liquor store. I am so glad they are all in my life and that we will be enjoying our night. Perfect timing!

Aug 22 - 5PM
hitandrun
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Yeah Amy!!!!

Glad you sold your ring...looking forward to doing the same. Sorry to hear about your unwanted "gift" from your ex...they are so irresponsible. I remember asking mine when we met and were becoming intimate if he's been tested...hell, I don't think he had ever wore a condom before! Uh...not anymore. I always get tested when things heat up. Done it for years, you never know. I've been lucky. Why would these men want to still have these STD's? I really don't get it. Much love to you Amy.
Aug 22 - 1PM
Amy
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Thank you all!

Your kind words mean so much to me! We ended up making it TWO nights. :) I am hurting today, but it was so much fun. They were really cool about helping me through all that stuff.
Aug 22 - 9AM
Goldie
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Hi Amy

Sorry about your health issues. I will be praying for you that all turns out o.k. They are the gift that just keeps giving. I keep finding out more and more the longer he is gone and it just reinforces and validates the need to remain NC no matter what. The ring represented a promise, a promise that was not kept. I'm glad you got a decent return on the ring so you can use this money to move forward and do what is best for you. My X's rings were crap but I still traded them in for a new ring that is of my liking and I call it my friendship ring to myself, it is the symbol of my beginning to form a loving, caring, nurturing relationship with myself which will protect me from ever letting one of these preditors into my heart again. The more I put myself and my needs first the less likely I will be to fall for this sort of manipulation again. I have removed everything from my house that has any history to my X and selling the ring was just another tie broken and this is a good thing. God bless, Goldie
Aug 21 - 12PM
Susan32
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Congratulations!

You have sold the One Ring. Now you can rejoice! No more "One Ring, in darkness to bind them." Have a fun time!
Aug 21 - 12PM
Mariline
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Well done girl. It will

Well done girl. It will never repay you for what he did to you, but at least it is something. It's unforgivable to him? And who cares? :-))
Aug 20 - 8PM
helldweller
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Amy

It's a stupid ring. I tried to give back the gold necklace my n gave me my first birthday, and no matter how bad things got he would not take it back. he wouldn't have my photo up in his house or even let me inside but by god, I was going to keep that damned necklace because it, to him, was proof of my love. I still have it, and I think I'm going to sell it and use it the money in Las Vegas next week with my girls, thanks to your inspiration.
Aug 22 - 1PM (Reply to #8)
Amy
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I hope you do sell it! I am

I hope you do sell it! I am flattered that I could have been an inspiration in any way!
Aug 20 - 9PM (Reply to #4)
M
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ring

I redid my wedding ring. It's a gorgeous right-hand ring. Helldweller--If possible would love to help you plan your Vegas trip. It's where I live! :)
Aug 21 - 9AM (Reply to #7)
gigi9
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I am having my ring re-done

I am having my ring re-done right now...turning it into a pendant for a necklace. It felt so freeing to rid myself of that ring and turn it into something for me!
Aug 20 - 10PM (Reply to #5)
helldweller
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M

Would love any tips for an eight and eleven year old! We are definitely wanting to see the Hoover Dam and ride the Canyon Blaster at Circus Circus. They wanted to meet Criss Angel but I told them he is a womanizer with a wife at home in New York and now they don't want to. LOL
Aug 21 - 12AM (Reply to #6)
M
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helldweller-Vegas

My girl is 7... She loves the Shark Reef @ Mandalay Bay. Don't know where you are staying but Mandalay Bay has a lazy river & wave pool. NYNY has a great rollercoaster. Shows? Lion King. Go to Bellagio & see the Conservatory (an indoor garden that changes themes), the chocolate fountain at Jean-phillipe's patisserie and the dancing fountains. Chriss Angel's show got poor reviews. In front of Caesars Palace is Seridipity3--a great ice cream parlor. M&M world is on the strip. Betty has my email :)
Aug 20 - 6PM
Klarity Belle
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Hope your girly night kept you light

So sorry to hear what he left you to deal with Amy. No need to feel any guilt about the ring - you know that. I hope your night with your friends was uplifting after a difficult day.:) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran "That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
"The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran

"That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung

http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4

Aug 20 - 5PM
enoughalready
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Amy

Sorry about the HPV. And you go girl! Enjoy the girls night out ....selling the ring and getting your power back is worth the celebration!