lacking self confidence

that is great that someone who knows how good you are has asked for your CV... way to go! I have these fears, my confidence is a bit shot, I don't feel like the woman with the career I once had. I've been out of work for 18 mths, took time out to care for someone, then 6 mths unemployed (I did finish off my degree, so only really started looking last couple of months). And it can be scary, but don't forget about everything you've done as a mother at home. I did what Carolyn suggested, put a paragraph at the top saying what I've been up to. I am just about to start applying for voluntary work, to help build up my confidence. I've got a DVD from amazon on interview skills, been to the job centre for advice (they weren't that great with me, not sure what country you are in, do they have any services for helping you build-up your resume for free?). If not, look at examples on the web too. Someone else just posted some advice on another website (getting past your past). They suggested that you make a list under different headings of things you've been proud of, of people you've helped, problems you've solved and how you did it, people whose lives you've been involved in, and what positive things you've left with them, and what you've learned in life that you could use to help others with at a later date. They also talked about discussing special places you'd been to... but if you're focusing on work may not be relevant, but could get you thinking anyway. Good luck... sounds like such an exciting time for you, building up your life.

This is a new beginning for you. I'm so excited for you. Being as this guy is a friends' husband he recognizes that you have been a stay at home mom for 6 years. That means your time management skills, organizational skills and self discipline have all been perfected! This new place of employment is lucky you are considering them! All you have to do is be yourself! You are a compassionate caring mother who has never ending love for her children. This experience is making you emotionally stronger and in the long run you will be happier than ever. Thank God Narc is slipping away and will find himself in a dark empty hole. You meanwhile will excell beyond belief without him holding you back! Hugs! You can do it! http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview nolongercontrolled

Your thinking is the result of the abuse and from being out of the workforce and not knowing what to expect or what is expected from you. the fact that someone called you looking for you in particular is really amazing. Resumes scare everyone. You must know what type of job they want you to do so you need to write a resume for that job. Resume writers break down your experience into KASO'S they are the key-knowledges, abilities, skills, and other. Other refers to a degree, certificate, language or other thing that will be beneficial to the employer. Write down all of the KASO's that you have, put a brief history of your work on top and then state you have been out of the workforce for 6 years, as a homemaker, then breakdown the KASO's into different paragraphs. For instance I am knowledgeable in retail sales,people contact, inventory I have the ability to interact well with clients and co-workers and have a proven track record of closing sales. I have excellent computer skills and coustomer relations skills and for other I am bi-lingual in Spanish. that gives you an idea of how to set-up a KASO resume. There are a lot of skills that homeakers have :meeting deadlines, scheduling, volunteer activities that show good people skills and community interest, organizing family work and activities. You just have to put pen to paper and think of every thing you have done that is a knowledge, a skill, an ability or an other. I saw a professional resume writer working with a client and she had been a receptionist. he asked her, "what can you do," and she answered, "answer the phone." When he finished asking her questions about exactly and specifically what her daily tasks were, on the receptionist desk, she was amazed at how many things she did involving, scheduling, organizing, phone client relations etc. that resume was fabulous and she had done all of the things that he grouped into the KASO's. She took herself for granted her ability to handle a huge volume of calls, operate complex computerized phone systems, deal with clients, deal with 10 lawyers, understand legal vocabulary, etc etc.was really impressive. She was the key to the firms functioning. Now you figure out what key things you know how to do. you will be very surprised. Maybe have a resume partner help you. Many cities have resume writers, who advertise in the yellow pages, and most public libraries have resume writting books or look on the internet. the standard chronological resume has morphed into many different resume formats. You are starting again and that is confusing. you remember who you were when you had a career and were a go-getter you are just one resume away from being back there. Also remember, in these tough job times, that job is looking for you! You will have very good luck with this it is just job hunting panic everybody gets that.

Of course you feel worthless, I do too. Anybody who has lived with a N 24/7 feels worthless. Isn't that what Ns do? Tear the object's self-esteem down deliberately & ruthlessly while professing love, love & more love! This is very hard. I struggle all day & every day with feelings of worthlessness. I have intrusive thoughts, a mantra, running in my head--'you're nobody; you're nothing.' But I force myself to go out & interact. I am lucky in that I have a job. Take the advice of this other woman here. Write a resume. And start today. Google "resume." There are so many templates on line. And, that's the hardest part, the format. It's so much easier to write a resume today than it was 6 years ago. Promote yourself. Don't put yourself down.

Yes, this is a tough position to be in. I too went several years without working outside the home. When I started to work again, I doubted my skills, my smarts, everything. Go online and find a sample resume that is in your field, and tailor that to your needs. If he's calling you about a job the resume isn't so much about impressing him as if you were applying out of the blue. Also, if this job doesn't work out, then you can work on your resume to get it just right for other opportunites. I am assuming you have been a stay-at-home mom during this time, and believe it or not, you have kept up a lot of useful skills doing that. Some of the things you have done as a mom (in business terms) are: time management, planning, scheduling, inventory control, organization, communication, teamwork. If you think about what you have been doing to keep your household running, and put these things into business terms, it may help you. Also, if you have helped in the classroom, scouts, soccer team, whatever, that all applies too. You can do this, you know you are smart and would be an asset to any company. Don't let what happened with CF make you think less of yourself.