The last lie

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#1 Sep 27 - 8AM

Mariline

The last lie

I am trembling and feel so bad, i have just discovered the last lie...i am having troubles with capital letters on the keyboard so please forgive me if i write all in small letters.
i have just discovered the last lie....i am feeling so bad. i am sick to my stomach.

my ex n, the one who made me pay for everything, he made me pay, a single mother struggling for paying the bills, he came to stay in my house for two months, he ate and fucked and did everything i even paid the movies and the swimming pool and the groceries...and he did not even bring a gift to my child, not even a two dollars toy...he who cried he was a destroyed man...he always told me that we could have a brilliant future as soon as his sisters made a movie from one of her books....

just discovered that the movie has been already done in 2009, before we met..and it was a millionaire one...starring with very famous singers....

..he has lied to me...he has exploited me....discovering this makes me feel so bad.

what a stupid i have been. being in italy how could i know about us movies...but i had this nagging feeling..and i searched the net today...just today not before, i don't know why...

the last lie, the biggest of all, before we even met..he started telling lies from day one.

i am crying my eyes out, but not for the money, please....i am crying for myself. for my love wasted, for my trust violated....for the laughs he must have done behind my back.

#2 Sep 27 - 10PM

girlfriday

I am so sorry. I know that

I am so sorry. I know that feeling. That sick feeling of being duped. Wondering what was real. Wondering if they were laughing the whole time. You are not stupid, but you perhaps didn't have clear boundaries in place to be taking care of a man and paying for everything like that. Not sure there is anything to say to take away that sick feeling that makes you shake and cry incessantly, but I believe that in the end, you will come out so much stronger with better boundaries in place because of this creep. It just takes a lot of time and support.

#3 Sep 28 - 12AM (Reply to #16)

Mariline

You can bet i had boundaries

You can bet i had boundaries out of place.....I thought he was just like one of my children, I felt tenderness for hi, I wanted to help him, he looked so helpless and so tender. He is a beast.

#4 Sep 27 - 7PM

faithinthefuture

marilene

what a stupid i have been. been in italy how could i know about us moveis...but I had this nagging feeling... I wouldn't call that stupid at all. Your instincts were telling you what you couldn't know. They make us feel stupid but we're not. We never were. And sure as hell won't be again. They are good at what they do aren't they? We've ALL believed their lies whether about money, other women, if the sun is shining. that's because we are good HONEST women and can't conceive what they do to people. THANK GOD we can't! Our only fault is that we trusted. marilene you have given so many words of wisdom and support to so many of us and we've respected what you've said and listened to you. That my dear is not stupid. It's our turn to help you. They are assholes. The lowest scum of the earth. I have to believe that what goes around comes around. He WILL get what's coming to him. The love and time wasted. the trust violated. Always rememeber your words. I will. THE LAST LIE!

#5 Sep 27 - 2PM

MovinOnUp

Another BIG ((((HUG)))) What

Another BIG ((((HUG)))) What a creep. I wonder if his sisters knew he felt entitled to spend their earnings.

#6 Sep 27 - 3PM (Reply to #13)

Mariline

Oh yes, the whole family

Oh yes, the whole family lived on the sister's earnings. Such a weird family...they were all so strange...

#7 Sep 27 - 1PM

Briseis

(((((((HUGS))))))))

It hurts so much when the lies come back home and show themselves. It made me feel so stupid that I wondered if I had the brains to walk and breathe at the same time :( Let yourself grieve. Because next, you are going to be VERY pissed off. And you should be. I know I am pissed off FOR you, and I'm just reading about it.

#8 Sep 27 - 11AM

CarolKittyGale (not verified)

Mariline

So so sorry you are hurting so much today. :-( My exN took and took from me too, he always said he would give me something back but it was always jam tomorrow never jam today. He used to drive around in my car with me being picked up and dropped of like he was royalty never gave any money for petrol and I have lost count how many times I cooked special meals for him yet he always had money for himself. I am a single parent, my husband died some years back so I am not well off, well not financially anyway. Now it really makes me angry that I gave so much to such a twat but at the time when we finished I just felt used and soul destroyed and I cried constantly for about a month. So you are not alone on this one honey. Mine lied from day one too. Have a good cry, you are in shock and little wonder because the strokes they pull are shocking. But when you get through this, and you will, you are going to be so clued up and even more wonderful then you were before. How lucky was he to have some one so kind and generous in his life. love and hugs Kitty xxxxx

#9 Sep 28 - 6AM (Reply to #10)

helldweller

Jam tomorrow, never today

I never heard this expression before, Carol, but that's what it always was. Even the times we broke up, when I refused to have sex again until I got my demands. I insisted on: -meeting his female friends -being his child's primary sitter -going out to dinner at least once a week -being included in his family events It was always, sure ok, now let's have sex. It was always, "Yeah, yeah, yeah," but he would never do anything to show me BEFORE we had sex again. If I didn't have sex with him on his "good word" he would say it was a sign of my stubbornness and lack of love for him. And he'd storm off again. It was truly insane. I'd try to reason with him that his "good word" was worthless because he never kept it, and that he could restore value to his "good word" by being a gentleman and respecting me and our relationship. Of course, trying to reason with the master of the universe is a ridiculous thing to do.

#10 Sep 27 - 12PM (Reply to #9)

Mariline

i can't believe it how much

i can't believe it how much it hurts, i can't believe it

#11 Sep 27 - 9AM

Used

mariline

so sorry ,for the despair you are in,,,,, the last lie... that sentance struck a chord, in that ,last time i was with narc.. he was speaking but i knew he was lying, and said to my self this is the last lie i will listen to... i am done and i finished with him... to feel like you do today, to have got a feeling out of the blue, as i did many times, i feel is gods work....telling us even away biegn from them, we still can find out things... i am so sorry for you. but so glad you have this hurtful information.... a final nail in the coffin...i asked my self how can people be like this.. how can they do it i dont understand..... i am glad i dont understand them, if i did understand ,i would be them, would i ? please take care of yourself. and stay here with your freinds..

#12 Sep 27 - 8AM

helldweller

Marilene

I am right there with you. Finding out things after the fact and knowing he was doing them while proclaiming his love for you--well, it's painful in the extreme. However, I for one will take the realization of the lies over not knowing any day. Finding out yesterday that my narc had his child baptized behind my back was horrifying, but it validated everything I suspected but couldn't quite prove. I understand that it's not about the money, too. When the narc moved into "our" new house behind my back--and I found out when I peeked in the window one day and saw all the furniture inside, all in place--the shock was unbleiveable. He still thinks I'm mad because I didn't get the big house. He has no idea why it's so upsetting. The betrayal feels like it's going to kill you. Please be good to yourself today. Remember what you said: It's the "last lie." Make sure it is, honey. xoxoxo

#13 Sep 27 - 10AM (Reply to #2)

Mariline

please help me i am feeling

please help me i am feeling so bad i am unable to stop crying, for me, for my child who cannot afford a new game for the playstation and not even a decent pair of shoes but always the cheapest one, for all my trust...and all the time he must have been laughing while i paid for everything, for everything...he phoned last week, can we go back on track..i told him come here and talk with me face to face and he answered oh no it is too expensive......i cannot do it.....

#14 Sep 27 - 11PM (Reply to #6)

better off

Hugs and more hugs. You are

Hugs and more hugs. You are such a nice person, and I'm so sorry this creep used you like that. And I know how much it hurts to think of them laughing at us, but it's the laugh of Satan. Satan can laugh now, but he will not be laughing at the end, will he? I used to just see red thinking about him laughing at me, but when you feel better, and you WILL, you will be the one laughing at him. And God will redeem all this awful pain. The exN in my life could laugh now if he wanted to, but I know what he is now, and he is so far beneath me that his laughter is ridiculous to me now. Like the bad boys in Pinnochio that turned into jackasses, and their laughs turned into donkey brays. That's what your narc's laughter is, the braying of a jackass.

#15 Sep 27 - 10AM (Reply to #4)

Amy

So cruel...

I am so sorry to hear you were lied to and just found out. What these jerks do is so cruel. You have made it this far. You are one of the strongest, most supportive women on here. We all have weak moments. Let it out, cry, scream, whatever... Then remind yourself he is not worth your tears and your time! Amy

#16 Sep 27 - 11AM (Reply to #5)

Susan32

Not worth my tears

I told my ex-P that in a postcard 7 years ago. I told him he wasn't worth my tears, that I had wasted my tears on him. He was the one who said that he ENJOYED watching me cry. That must've been heartwarming for him *snickers*

#17 Sep 27 - 10AM (Reply to #3)

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mariline

no no, come on we are strong here, and so are you...this pain will pass and yes you feel bad now... i looked for your story, have you written it... i hope now you will block him, why are you still in contact?.... what cant you do? there is nothing you cant do, you will pick yourself up, you can mariline.. please please stay on this board..as long as you can.. if you want to ask me anything .. you can i will try my best to help you all i canxxxx

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