I think looking at NC as a GOOD thing is the MOST healthy thing we can do......Where will CONTACT get you????
1.) Talking / texting a toxic person
2.) Talking / texting a person who is a LIAR so do we even believe him?
3.) Generating feelings we once had for that person that can never, ever be genuinely replicated....unless false of course....Do you want false actions?? (I would have put the word emotions here, but they have none)
4.) WASTING more of our energy, anticipation, expectations,and excitement, which will lead to bewilderment, disappointment, anger, and frustration!!!!
5.) AND seeing the disappointment in our friends and families eyes as we yet again think they are going to change......
I enjoy doing these reality checks once in awhile...
Hugs to all!!!