Moving on and elevating your life

"So let the thoughts that dominate your life be beautiful, strong and full of promise. And remember, if you make it habit to believe that the life you have imagined will come true, and you put in physical effort every day, your dreams will be your reality. It will arrive . . . [you] will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.

In other words become the type of environment, the type of culture, you want to live in, and it will become your reality."

Reference:
http://www.thesimplyluxuriouslife.com/2010/08/change-your-thoughts-chang...

I know we are in different phases of our recovery. Some may be counting the mins, the hrs, the days of NC. While others are simply cannot look beyond today. However, I hope this helps. As for me, since my final D & D last month, I can once again envision my future. I am 40 + days FREE. But I did not get there in one day, one week or one month. I spent about almost a year of dis-engaging, going NC, breaking NC, praying, feeling stuck, crying, spending moments and moments of despair. It took me to finally listen to what everybody is saying that recovering from this experience will take hard work and that it is an inside job. I also came to the realization that all my friends, therapist, my online community and family have done what they could. I have also done a lot of reading and reading. So, now it was time to put some serious action towards my recovery. I took the advise of my brother-- to stack up my wins no matter how big or small. For instance, I started going to the gym 5 times a week ( a win). I lost 3 lbs in 1 week (a win). I accomplished a lot of training for my job (another win).

'Hope this helps some of you in your path forward!