My Narc had no real personality, what about yours?

Mine had zero personality and never smiled. No one at the dock likes the guy and no one at the company we worked at together ever liked him. He gave me a bad reputation just by being associated to him. He was bad news and I ignored it. I won't ignore anything again. I won't ignore anyone if they tell me they don't like any future guys I am in contact with. I have no plans to date any time soon, if ever. I just know that I will listen more to myself and what others think.

ALL PERSONALITY!! It's a mask to hide the real person who is afraid to show his real self. When you first meet him, he is so charismatic and positive -- the charisma part did cause me to shy away after our first meeting. Six months later, however he started emailing me again and his persistence intrigued me. (the rest is history... ) All personality -- one HUGE personality -- to compensate for what is really there, and the lack thereof. It is a mask. They can change their personality like a chameleon -- In fact, he even stood in front of me on occasion and said "I am a chameleon", and "I am a GREAT actor" -- wow, how revealing!! He said it with pride too. Of course this was well after I'd already become emotionally involved and attached with him. Here's something creepy... I think, too, that they study and emulate their victims and learn to mimick OUR personalities. i have noticed especially over the last 3 months or so.... he actually started adopting MY interests and catch phrases and such. I am a digital media specialist by "trade", and this year i had started working with digital video production and editting, etc. for my employer -- well, he just went out and bought all this expensive video equipment, new mac, software etc. -- and made the announcement HE was going to startup a business (and make himself a YouTube personality), and HE would be offering video services for weddings and such (this was MY idea for my own aspirations awhile back...), and he said i can help HIM, he might need a gopher of sorts to assist.... what the --?? Stealing my identity or what?! Oh, and then we're at a book store recently and I am looking at this new age book about Chakras -- something of which he knew NOTHING about until he met me, nor has he shown much if any belief in or positivity about it all along --- well, he says maybe he'll buy that book and read it . I looked at him with surprise, and he said: "What? I was interested in this stuff long before I knew you." -- as though he was reading my mind and KNEW i was seeing through his fraud. Why?? Like he's learning to be like me, to maybe attract someone else like me in the future? Improving his acting skills i guess. Yeah, anyways.... all personality, no person! The person is lost somewhere. (sadly...)

always used to quote movies...I swear it was so often...he'd just repeat the same lines from multiple movies, Bad Boys, Bad Santa, Better off Dead, or would quote a lot of stuff/clips from a morning radio show. It was funny at times...but other times it was like really?!?! Can you think of something else to say or something more original. I mean there were certain parts of his personality that were him...he had a jeep since hs, was always into jeeps as far as I can remember...but I dunno now that I think back on it...he seemed so shallow. He did know a lot about movies and that industry but only because his mom works for a production company and he had done camera work.

They merge their identity into what is needed to play the role with whomever they're with in order to obtain supply. They operate on the false self.

agreed, no personality, no content, not an original thought, no tastes of his own a parasite in more ways than one....

My ex-narc is a business owner who has made a lot of money being manipulative and saying exactly what you want to hear- really a master at it, seems concerned and interested, all the time this is just a script that he learned to sucker people in and get what he wants, he can seem funny, the life of the party and everybody's friend his true personaility, is depressed, negative, full of rage, and anger. He cares about no one. Just getting what he wants, money, sex, prestige and being the "good" guy. All just a mask, underneath there is nothing, he is either working, or sleeping in his filthy house. Really a blob, going on and on about nothing, an empty shell of nothing

I thought he was bipolar until I read about narcissism. He was either totally WINNING!!! -- life of the party, lothario, funny. Or he was TheBlob -- depressed, expressionless, lifeless. Once in a blue moon he was kind of normal. But that was the rarest of all. Don't know about the woman where you volunteer or your narc. My thought is usually narcs are loaded with personality. That's how they sucker people in. :/

Huh. I never thought of it that way, but that might sum him up. Wait. He did have a personality. It was called droning droning droning angry complaining complaining depressed depressed angry whining whining sad trapped depressed depraved lonely abusive sluggish sluggish low energy sadistic droning droning droning whining whining whining.... ...wait, I have it! Yup. A blob about sums it up.