Narc Arrogance

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#1 May 21 - 3AM
Lucky Escape
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Narc Arrogance

Did anyone else get this? I am processing so much at the moment and one of the things that has just slapped me around the face today is the total and utter arrogance of an N. I realise that I need to let this go, but again, am getting so angry and want to retaliate, so am posting here instead.

When I am remembering some of the things he said, which I think is healthy as it is constantly providing me with lightbulbs....I am insensed by the arrogance of the man. I was totally insensed by it then too and that is when I started to stand up to him, challenge him and ultimately see through it all. I think some of these things you will relate to, even bring a smidgen of laughter.

He used to strut around like he was the most important person on the planet, again N to a tee!! Omnipotency is a common trait, I understand that. There are so many examples I would run out of post space listing them. But here are some of the top 10:

1. "I deserve 100%, I want someone who respects me" and when I challenged that he didn't demonstrate respect to me he would say "respect is earnt, you need to learn that"

2. "When are you going to realise that it's all about how you treat people?" "At some point in life you will realise that you can not continually blame the men" - OMG? Really?

3. "If you have manners, I will let you in" - after locking me out of our room on holiday after I had asked him, calmly, not to speak to me like a child.

4. "It must be great to have a man who is all over you?" - sex pest more like!

5. "Lunch would have been ready an hour ago if I had been cooking it"

6. "I am a man of great honour, integrity and honesty, I pride myself on it"

7. "You need to learn to rise above things, normal women do not behave the way you do, there is NO justification for your behaviour"

8. "My boss is an asshole (and everyone before that), he is clearly threatened by me"

9. "You need to understand that you have me, 100%, so stop all the remarks and behaviour" - this on a romantic weekend away 4 weeks before Discard.

10. "I am putting the children first, that is what a good parent does" - meanwhile has a 3 year old he has never met, has made no effort to see.

His 2 girls think the sun shines out of his arse too...the last weekend he was telling his daughter that he would leave and I overheard....she responded "That's my Daddy!!! Oh Daddy, she will miss us when we've gone!" - scarey.....the arrogance is in them too.

I know that I should be letting all of this go but I so struggle with the injustice of it all.....it's so wrong how he treated me and my kids, the total covert manipulation and NLP. So so wrong.

May 23 - 7AM
Kitty84
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Lucky, this is all so true.

May 23 - 7AM (Reply to #44)
tootsgee
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oh my god they talk to us

May 23 - 7AM (Reply to #45)
Kitty84
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Yep - said during an argument

May 23 - 7AM (Reply to #46)
tootsgee
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Of course Kitty.... all your

May 21 - 2PM
Deidre99
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#3 ...has me cringing. so

May 21 - 1PM
Tigerlily
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It`s so wierd how they`re so alike and we`re so different.

May 21 - 1PM (Reply to #41)
Reason2Believe
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LOL

May 21 - 12PM
Reason2Believe
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Bald, fat,bloated tick

May 21 - 12PM (Reply to #36)
Lucky Escape
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Think we all

May 21 - 1PM (Reply to #37)
Reason2Believe
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Lucky,

May 21 - 1PM (Reply to #38)
Lucky Escape
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Reason

May 21 - 3PM (Reply to #39)
Reason2Believe
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Lucky

May 21 - 10AM
sweetpeasarah
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OMG

May 21 - 8AM
onwithmylife
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lucky escape

May 21 - 7AM
tootsgee
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The other thing he used to

May 21 - 8AM (Reply to #31)
LoserFree
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tootsgee he used to say that

May 21 - 8AM (Reply to #32)
tootsgee
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oh my ... i think i remember

May 21 - 7AM
Hunter
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Same guy different

May 21 - 7AM
Portia
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Entitled to the Core

May 21 - 7AM
Sparrow
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They are all like that. Be

May 21 - 6AM
Monarch
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His Arrogance

May 21 - 7AM (Reply to #26)
kocrazy
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Arrogant body language

May 21 - 6AM (Reply to #24)
tootsgee
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the shit defo did the haughty

May 21 - 11AM (Reply to #25)
Lucky Escape
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Well ladies

May 21 - 6AM
RustyGal
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My N used to always tell me I

May 21 - 11AM (Reply to #22)
Lucky Escape
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I DID check his phone

May 21 - 6AM (Reply to #21)
tootsgee
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mine used to say that too

May 21 - 6AM (Reply to #20)
Monarch
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Now that's classic! "Hey,

May 21 - 5AM
Empowered_Empath
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It's healing

May 21 - 6AM (Reply to #18)
Monarch
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Sounds familiar...