Narc's having a baby

I hope it is not a baby girl, my heart breaks for that poor little baby no matter the gender. Life in general is filled with so many predators of all evil sorts and is hard enough without also having a VERY messed up father as your 'protector and guide' in the dawn of life when you are brand new and know nothing and just an innocent being......... God help all the kids who have the misfortune of having been born to parents who are predators. Hang in there and don't be sad, one day you will find a good honest kind caring man who will treat you and your daughter with love, kindness, honesty, and respect. He may not be "Rock Star" exciting but then, none of us would ever want that type of dysfunctional excitement ever again. God bless.

Hi Grossot, My exNH has now got 3 children with his wife. I remember when she was pregnant and she delighted in telling me so. I don't even know why i was talking to her then. Probably cos i knew nothing about narcs and contact then. It wouldn't be that way now. I will stay well away and not get to know anything. I don't think it's the natural process to have a baby with a man and then watch them do that with another woman no matter what the circumstances. I think it's biologically difficult. But it happens cos narcs are biologically different aren't they. Time will go by and that's about the only guarantee we have about life. Detachment is the only way from this one.

Take a look at Sandra Brown's post 'He Seems to be Happy Now.' This will give you some clear insights. This man will leave that woman and never care about the child. He is pathological in his dealings with other women and you have been freed from a monster. You can improve your quality of life by realizing what an escape you and your child have had and how it benefits both of you. Sometimes changing your thoughts with a positive meditation or affirmation will help. It is not fair that he does the damage and you have to do all of the work but that is why this problem is so terrible. Here is one meditation I read yesterday maybe it can help when you feel sad or thinking about him: I am now free from all restentment or attachment toward or from emotional pain, people, places, or things of the past or present. I manifest my true people. I am receiving all the unlimited health that the universe has for me now, and I am blessed witht eh true prosperity and riches that the universe is sending to me now! An affirmation that you can repeat is: I send forth only thoughts of GOOD and GOOD returns in overflowing measure. When you start reading or saying these you will be half-hearted but after a few days-basically 22 days-you will say them with more emotion and a positive outlook. You are mourning for a man who 'never was and never will be' a real partner to any woman.