NC ROCKS!!! Something kind of hit me last night. After my 7 year stint in narc prison, I went NC. I don't know if he tried to contact me, since I blocked him immediately - I suspect he has. But I know he has snapped in public since then - twice.
I met two guys since I left the original warden; one was a cop, who came over to my house and while we were talking, he blurted out that he's married. I asked him to leave - went NC immediately - he tried calling a bunch of times before finally giving up.
Second guy was just an emotional wreck - Mr. Feel Sorry For Me - crazy ex girlfriends, textbook narc. Went NC with him too. Immediately. Multiple unanswered texts later, he finally gave up.
All three of them viewed me as a game piece. Something to be conquered. They tried, but when they got nowhere, they gave up and moved on. The only thing that allowed for them to go away was NC. Had I replied to any of these texts, I might be dealing with 3 narcs right now, instead of living in peace and solitude. I'd rather be alone than deal with this crap. I never said "I don't want to see you any more"...I knew what these people were and didn't want them in my life for one second longer, not even to be properly dumped. I didn't do anything from a vindictive point of view. NC is almost second nature to me any more. If I get red flags, out they go - I mean, right NOW.
Anyone grappling with NC, remember - the game will continue as long as you choose to play it. When you walk away, you are choosing you over them.