N/C gets easier--stay the course
N/C gets easier--stay the course
I'm almost at the one year mark of NC and feel I should tell everyone here who is still hurting, craving contact, missing the N, that for me what really helps is to remember all the terrible, bizarre behaviour and abuse and as painful as all that is, you have to go through it and then when you come out the other side, you will finally be so relieved that you haven't put up with any more the day you initiated NC. Life is truly great without an N in it!
I can say now that I have no desire to see him ever again or to rekindle the friendship. I am in the healing stage of forgiving myself for not knowing and being educated enough on this very real disorder that causes so many people emotional pain.
Yes, there are times I still obsess and revisit the pain, the hurtful words he's said, the strange behaviour. I admit, I wonder if he gives a flying f**k about how I feel...or how anyone feels for that matter.
I know in my heart, he is not a better person because of what he learned from losing me. I truly believe he is out there validating himself by continuing to be cruel to others and probably getting away with it most of the time. I have empathy for those people he hurts. I will not allow him in my life anymore. I know that but does he? Now, I think of him more as a freak of nature and almost non-human so it does not matter if he misses me, like it would if he were a normal man.
I am hopeful that he won't contact me anymore. I'm starting to feel safe and relaxed in my own home. No more anxiety when the phone rings either. I pray he is done with me as I am with him.
Hang in there, it gets better!
P.s. my circumstance was a 20 year friendship that turned into a 'fake' affair when he took advantage of me when I was diagnosed with RA and was in a lot of pain. He pretended to care and I believed him. I am happily married and have been for 25 years. It is so true when you get close to these types, that is when the mask comes off.
Thank you for sharing encouragement...
narcissizednomore
You have RECOVERED
Yes, silence is golden isn't
narcissizednomore
Laughter is the best medicine...
That's a very good story to
Really
narcissizednomore
Amen sister!
Believe in yourself!
Terri
Ive been nc since october and
"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess
agreed
You should have call display
narcissizednomore