Need Help with Assertiveness
Need Help with Assertiveness
I've been separated from my narcissistic husband for a month. I caught him with another woman and he showed no look of guilt or remorse. He continued calling me throughout the week so I thought he was wanting to work things out and then I caught him with her again a week later. He called our son and told him that it wasn't as it appeared. Said he had told this woman he could no longer talk to her or see her and that she just "appeared" at his door and they went next door to a neighbors. Our own son (21) said that his dad had called him because he felt that if he could convince our son that it was innocent then my husband would be able to manipulate me. We had already been living apart because of the distance of his work. When I caught him the first time the neighbor referred to this other woman as his "wife".
I mailed him a list of our debt and how I want things split as well as wanting alimony. He has been amicable throughout but called this morning with a different tone. He knows the kids and I went for counseling for the first time last night so he wanted to know all about that and felt we were wasting our time. He also said that he didn't have time at the moment but that he wanted us to talk this afternoon because there were going to have to be some revisions to the list. He has been stalling me and so I haven't file yet. I have an appointment with an attorney for tomorrow and I made sure that I got the best attorney just in case it becomes contested although husband said he wanted it to be uncontested. He also said at the beginning that he didn't want us even using an attorney. haha The attorney I'm seeing was referred to me by two other attorneys that I know.
Please!!! Help give me some backbone to stand up to him this afternoon. He's driving home to pick up our 21 year old son for the holidays. I feel as if I need my son there during this conversation to help me to stand up to him. On the other hand, I feel I shouldn't involve our son anymore and know that he wants to remain as neutral as possible. Our son has said that his dad will turn on me. He also said that I need the alimony in the decree although my husband "just wants to send me money" and not be legally bound. My son said the first time his dad became angry with me he would stop the support if it isn't in writing and I know that he's right. I'm terrified of the confrontation this afternoon. Am I wrong to ask my son to sit in on the conversation?
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