Need Some Support And Input Today

I think the last strand on my already fraying tether is looking mighty thin today. As some of you know, I still work with xnh in the office right next door to him (for now). Quite frankly I totally hate it, and have now put in three complaints and requests to move my office with management. Xnh will NOT leave me alone, and seems to be doing his utmost best to be as obnoxious and offensive to me at work as he possible can.

In addition, until three weeks ago, I had a mutual friend with xnh that simply will NOT stop talking about xnh around me. Everything I say also goes directly back to xnh through this guy. I have repeatedly asked him to stop all of this behavior and told him how much it bothers me. Because of this, I have distanced myself from him, and do not discuss anything even remotely personal anywhere near him because of his "security leak" (aka, big, fat mouth).

Last week, I left for vacation with my sister (and I had a wonderful time). However, before I left, xnh walked into my office even though he's been expressly forbidden to have any contact with me by management at work. Xnh came in while I was at my desk working and said, "I don't mean to bother you" (yes, he did or he wouldn't have done it) "but I just wanted to say that I'm sorry I hurt you, and I DO miss you." I know this a direct result of the mutual friend telling xnh about a private conversation I'd previously had with the mutual friend. In short, xnh was coming into my office to give me two messages: a) I'll walk in here to harass you anytime I want no matter what management tells me, and b) everything you say to the mutual friend is told to me. So nanny, nanny, poo, poo.

I immediately reported xnh (again) to management. Only this time, I decided it was the third complaint and I went higher up the chain of command. In addition, I requested that my office be moved away from xnh a third time. This is now getting serious attention from upper management, and supposedly my office is moving to another floor away from xnh next week. YES! Hallelujah!!!!

However, after I arrived back from my vacation today, I heard from my office mate that the mutual friend AND XNH came into my office, while I was gone, to announce to this guy that our office is moving. My office mate knew nothing about any move at the time. He was blind-sided. In addition, The mutual friend and xnh told him that he doesn't have to move...only me. This brazen intrusion into my department and my job infuriates me completely. They are both so out of line and unprofessional with this that it's unreal. Neither the mutual friend or xnh are in my chain of command in any way, and had absolutely NO business interfering with my department (and employees) during my absence. This was an announcement that my supervisor was planning to make to my office mate AFTER I came back from vacation, and after he'd discussed the final plans with me first. I am absolutely livid (and so is my supervisor) that xnh and this mutual friend butted into MY job position, and the mutual friend is basically spoon feeding xnh (who's harassing behavior is the REASON I must move my office). Xnh has been told NO CONTACT with me on company property by management. Xnh and the mutual friend stood right in my office and interfered when they knew I was temporarily out of the picture. A*sholes.

Therefore, I spent all morning today in my supervisor's office lodging my complaint about this intrusion, and then in the upper management's offices about it during the afternoon. They are definitely getting my office moved, and do admit that I'm currently in a hostile work environment because of xnh. In addition, this "mutual friend" has now crossed a big line in my book. I'm literally chafing about this whole mess, and have been all day. Right now, I'm so frustrated that I really needed to get it out, and see what someone besides myself thinks about this situation (specifically about xnh and the mutual friend intruding into my job while I'm out of town).

I hate for xnh to get any kind of reaction out of me, but right now, I'd really like to punch xnh and the "mutual friend" right in the face, and I really, really, really wish I never had to see either one of them ever again. The "mutual friend" is no longer either "mutual" or a "friend" to me. I take my employment VERY seriously, and now I feel that xnh (with the encouragement of the mutual friend) is trying to hurt my ability to do my job. I'm, also, relatively sure xnh would dearly LOVE to ruin me in any way he can (even though HE dumped ME). He's a vindictive sh*t. I, also, do think that management moving my office will remove me from xnh's proximity. They are trying to help me with this. However, right now I'm ANGRY.