New learning

I just discovered that my ex is a narc...or at least I believe he is but there are some things that make me question it. I met him soon after his ex dumped him. About 6 weeks into our relationship he went back to her and the timing was right for him because I was away for a while. I got hints while I was away but only confirmed it when i got back. She dumped him again before I got back so he just tried to seemlessly move back to me. That also was my very first taste of rage and abuse. It was on the phone while I was away because i told him he could not borrow my car.

While he admitted to going back to her he said they never slept together but i didnt believe that. I didnt dump him but i questioned him all the time and he would get angry or just try to change the subject. Our relationship fizzled out after many fights and him walking out and going silent for days. I never reached out to him and he always returned eventually. He would send morning txts and hearts etc but he was very distant so I suspected he had someone new. I came to find out that he had a online relationship for mts then she came to live with him. The week she came he disappeared for about 10 days then calle done day and apologised for treating me badly and said he prefered to be alone for some time to get himself together. Eventually the gf contacted me because he hit her. she also is manipulative and shows traits of a narc. She and I eventually began talking for weeks until she turned on me because she suspected I wanted him and she returned to him after she left a second time when he threathened to stab her.

Anyway, she got very nasty and told me horrible things, some of which he told her and seemed to be egging her on. She blocked me from his whatsapp after I blocked him on every social media and from calling me. I suspect that he was ready to cut me off but he said i was unimportant and that he will not msg me again for the sake of their relationship, according to her. Anyway I blocked them both. I suspect it may be the end but I know they have a volatile relationship that may explode at any minute again and he may randomly show up at work to say hello because he is blocked everywhere. I cant wait to throw him outof here quietly. She promised to be on her best behaviour and give him love, like sex everyday and cater to him so he does not get angry again. I wish her luck.