Not what I expected...
Not what I expected...
Well, I'm back after a few weeks. This board has been such a godsend. My prediction was that N would final D&D me the day the business we turned around got refinanced, as our contractual relationship would be over, as since he told me he no longer wanted a personal relationship with me - that once the defined business relationship was over, he would split out of my life for good.
Well, I think ACgirl posted once that she wished he would contact her again so that she could be the one that does the final dump...or something like that... and sadly I've been thinking the same thing...how can I be the one to end it quickly with NC so that he doesn't do it to me!? (i know it sounds immature, but I couldn't stand the thought of being D&D'd by him again)
Well, our final close is now in three days. Last week he was constantly offering help and being super helpful and sweet. conversations on the phone that involved alot of laughing and fun. (what I always thought was normal).... and then yesterday he called and wants to meet with me tomorrow (I haven't seen him in two months, after I asked him to stop coming to the company, because every time I saw him my heart would race, I couldn't breath, and would start crying when he left)
He wants to meet because the new company he is running manufacturers a product that my company needs desperately...something we had to get from China in the past, but needed to get locally.
I would so badly like to see him and try to get some straight answers...yes, the "no closure" as people say because we never will get a straight answer:
- why do you want to enter into a NEW relationship with me when you have already betrayed our relationship behind my back? I thought you told me you wanted nothing from me anymore?
- Why would you want to enter into a NEW relationship if our last one was so full of conflict? Is there no one you can verbally abuse at your new company? No one will let you get away with it because they haven't loved you as long?
- Is this so you can get me all lathered up again, so that when I try to cross the line you can tell more new victims that you have a highly ranked woman after you?
- Have you contacted all of the women that you betrayed me to and told them you were dishonest by omitting the fact that you really did lead me on for 20 years and that my loving you was not because you "had no role whatsoever"?
- What are these women going to think when they find out you pursued a new relationship with the woman you said was making you uncomfortable at work because she loved you?
I would just love to point out to him and contrast what happened between us to what happens between two people who really are "just friends".
But I get back to - I can't believe that someone who has D&D'd you several times would seek to continue a relationship with you. Just like everything is normal; without ever apologizing for those D&D's.
If anyone could think of some witty things to do if I see him in person....I kind of would like this final opportunity to call him to the table of...WTF were you doing to me for 20 YEARS of my LIFE and do you really think I want you to USE ME for another 20 YEARS!!!!!!!!!
loveofmylife...is it a full moon or something?? Me, too...
Closure
Nevergoback
Narcs wont let you get closure
ACgirl...it doesn't matter WHAT they tell you when they ask to
it took me a while to get
Eery patterns here....
acgirl
Loveofmylife, Scoop, it really is comforting....