"Now We Are Six"

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#1 Aug 12 - 9PM
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"Now We Are Six"

Mentioned on the BlogTalkRadio show "The Narcissist Cannot Love"
(http://www.blogtalkradio.com/allabouthim )

http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/six.html
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the poems:

Now We Are Six
by: A.A. Milne

When I was one,
I had just begun.
When I was two,
I was nearly new.
When I was three,
I was hardly me.
When I was four,
I was not much more.
When I was five,
I was just alive.
But now I am six,
I'm as clever as clever.
So I think I'll be six
now and forever.

Aug 16 - 3PM
James (not verified)
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"Now We Are Six"

[Apologies to A. A. Milne.] If you had a narcissist for a parent, you lived in a world governed by whim enforced without mercy. Narcissists have normal, even superior, intellectual development while remaining emotionally and morally immature. Dealing with them can give you the sense of trying to have a reasonable discussion with a very clever six-year-old -- this is an age when normal children are grandiose and exhibitionistic, when they are very resistant to taking the blame for their own misbehavior, when they understand what the rules are (e.g., that lying, cheating, and stealing are prohibited) but are still trying to wriggle out of accepting those rules for themselves. This is the year, by the way, when children were traditionally thought to reach the age of reason and when first communions (and first confessions) were made. Having a narcissist for a mother is a lot like living under the supervision of a six-year-old. Narcissists are always pretending, and with a narcissistic mother it's a lot like, "Let's play house. I'll pretend to be the mother and you pretend to be the baby," though, as the baby, you'll be expected to act like a doll (keep smiling, no matter what) and you'll be treated like a doll -- as an inanimate object, as a toy to be manipulated, dressed and undressed, walked around and have words put in your mouth; something that can be broken but not hurt, something that will be dropped and forgotten when when something more interesting comes along. With narcissists, there's also usually a fair element of "playing doctor," as well -- of childish sexual curiosity that may find expression in "seductive" behavior towards the child, such as inappropriate touching of the genitals, or it can also come out as "hypochondriacal" worries about the child's health and/or being most interested and attentive when the child is ill (thus teaching the child that the way to get Mother's kind attention is to get sick). Having a sick child can also be a way for the narcissistic mother to get the sympathetic attention of authority figures, such as doctors and teachers. http://dslweb.nwnexus.com/jmashmun/npd/six.html
Aug 16 - 5PM (Reply to #10)
Barbara (not verified)
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narc mother

Having a narcissist for a mother is a lot like living under the supervision of a six-year-old. Narcissists are always pretending, and with a narcissistic mother it's a lot like, "Let's play house. I'll pretend to be the mother and you pretend to be the baby," though, as the baby, you'll be expected to act like a doll (keep smiling, no matter what) and you'll be treated like a doll -- as an inanimate object, as a toy to be manipulated, dressed and undressed, walked around and have words put in your mouth; something that can be broken but not hurt, something that will be dropped and forgotten when when something more interesting comes along. Ah yes, when my brother (golden boy) came along - my illnesses and other issues were dropped as much as possible - I became an embarrassing burden. With narcissists, there's also usually a fair element of "playing doctor," as well -- of childish sexual curiosity that may find expression in "seductive" behavior towards the child, such as inappropriate touching of the genitals, or it can also come out as "hypochondriacal" worries about the child's health and/or being most interested and attentive when the child is ill (thus teaching the child that the way to get Mother's kind attention is to get sick). Having a sick child can also be a way for the narcissistic mother to get the sympathetic attention of authority figures, such as doctors and teachers. I could go on & on about this... the sick child with the mom who was always sacrificing for this horrible child. Poor her... the ultimate martyr with a bad husband and a horrible, sickly, ugly, freakish daughter who is a drain on her. She also makes sure to tell her daughter at LEAST once a day - "I know you live your whole life just to HURT ME!!!!" Ugh.... ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for abuse victims - Updated Daily "Some women can fake an orgasm. But some men can fake an entire relationship!" - Sharon Stone
Aug 16 - 9AM
grossot
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6

Must be nice. I sure as hell can't get away with acting 6! I have responsibilities. And I care for others! When I first realized my N was so narc-ish I had a four year old at the time. I knew when we sat at the dinner table and he interrupted her to talk about himself and she politely shut up which is just what he wanted. Be kinder than necessary to everyone you meet; for everyone is fighting some kind of battle - anonymous- :o) nolongercontrolled
Aug 16 - 2PM (Reply to #8)
Barbara (not verified)
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me to grossot

LOL - exNH STILL interrupts the kids to talk about himself. If I am around I say "One child at a time please." hee hee hee ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for abuse victims - Updated Daily "Some women can fake an orgasm. But some men can fake an entire relationship!" - Sharon Stone
Aug 16 - 9AM
confused123
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My son is 6 and acts older,

My son is 6 and acts older, more caring and has more morals than these idiots! Lol!
Aug 16 - 7AM
James (not verified)
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Cool

Great poem and thanks! http://james-personalitydisorder.blogspot.com/
Aug 15 - 11PM
quietude (not verified)
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now we are six

Thanks for posting, Barbara. I heard you talking about it on the show. Just gives me the creeps reading it...
Aug 15 - 11PM
Jen22
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Thanks

:)
Aug 16 - 12AM (Reply to #2)
Barbara (not verified)
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narcs & arrested development

Make sure you read the link too: http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/six.html for Ashmun's masterful breakdown of the Narc and this link might prove very insightful: http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/03/narcissists-troubled-cases-of-arrested.html ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for abuse victims - Updated Daily "Some women can fake an orgasm. But some men can fake an entire relationship!" - Sharon Stone
Jan 30 - 3PM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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"Now We Are Six"

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