Ns: Trample Boundaries/ Control Freak

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#1 Mar 16 - 6PM

Anonymous (not verified)

Ns: Trample Boundaries/ Control Freak

http://narcissists-suck.blogspot.com/2009/03/red-flag-disrespect-for-bou...

Sharin' the good stuff!

My ex-NH still does this. He comes by to see the kids and just WALKS into my bedroom while I am getting dressed. HELLO?!?!?!

#2 Mar 29 - 4AM

narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)

no boundaries.....

the psychonar would not allow boundaries...and me trying to set them got me nearly killed... i set the boundary that he could not drive my brand new car i'd worked hard to have, because he'd torn up every other car we'd ever owned...for setting that boundary, he stole my car keys took my car out and PURPOSELY wrecked it... for years he purposely destoyed my property...broke keepsakes...stole jewelry from me that meant a great deal..even stole my MP3 player because i really enjoyed it.. when i drew my line in the sand and told him i wanted a divorce and wanted him to move out, after a very nasty drinking and drugging episode..he screamed at me..'NO ONE tells me what i can do, bitch'..lunged at me and tried to kill me..... he saw anyone setting a boundary as a flagrant insult to his omnipotence..and the infraction was severely punished.... i would no longer allow him to live in my house..he was living in a cheap motel up the road...and would come to the house to work, because that's where my office was...that boundary cost me the life of my beloved dog BEN...i left the monster alone with him for less than three minutes to run outside and get another of my dogs in....and in time the enraged tyrant murdered my dog...because i had dared to set a boundary.. but he of course, had no boundaries whatsoever...he could come and go as he pleased...work or not work...beat me if the mood hit him...screw men...steal from me and clients...drive drunk...his life was a free for all......

#3 Mar 28 - 11PM

Kelly

Shower surprise - - boundary crossing?

My last exN/psycho walked in on me when I was in his shower - - (at the time,) it turned into something really exciting and passionate (which I liked.) However . . . Could this be crossing a boundary? Here I am in a private moment and he just feels like walking in on me and taking control and I am supposed to just go with it?

#4 Mar 28 - 10PM

Amazed

Barbara, great post and their disrespect of boundaries

This says it all!!!!! Now I know why the ex N stole the door stopper from my office,,now I know why he put up a huge picture in my office without my permission, using these huge screw in things that left huge holes in the walls that he building management was pissed about!! He saw my office, that I paid for, and claimed it to be "his office",,and in crossing those boundaries like they are wanten to do, they do things like mar the surface, ie, 'scuff things up' on purpose,,,write on your walls,,yes, he did this too (very strange for a grown man),,god that is strange... You are right..he literally crossed boundaries, saw what was mine as his, claimed it as his by doing these things, and saught to remove me from the scene, my scene. Dang that is right on!!! Thank you Barbara!!!!

#5 Oct 27 - 5PM

Barbara (not verified)

I mean....

He lives close by. The kids are old enough that he rings the bell to pick them up when he sees them. But he does sometimes push past them and just walk into my bedroom to yell at me. I document. The police have even spoken to him about it. He's a Narc. No boundaries. Nothing. He continues to see anything wrong with his behavior. What he believes is wrong is when I call him on it. Talk about permanent pathology. Remember - I am disabled, sometimes sitting up in bed is about it for me for most of the day. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.

#6 Oct 24 - 11PM

Barbara (not verified)

Narcs LOVE to trample boundaries

SEE TOP POST ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.

#7 Oct 3 - 2PM

Barbara (not verified)

narcissists are disrespectful

#8 Aug 1 - 5PM

Barbara (not verified)

Narcs are control freaks who trample boundaries

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#9 Jun 15 - 7PM

Barbara (not verified)

disrespecting boundaries/ control freak

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#10 Mar 16 - 9PM

Lisa E. Scott

Entitlement

Yes, rules do not apply to them, do they? They think they are entitled to do whatever they want, whenever they want and to whomever they want.

#11 Mar 17 - 2PM (Reply to #2)

cassiemay

entitlement

Oh yes. They are entitled to do whatever they want and whenever they want. My STBX, from whom I have been separated for 2 and 1/2 years (because of HIS stalling tactics....) recently simply stopped depositing any money into our mutual checking account (the only access to money that I had). Opened a new account in only his name, didn't tell me a thing about it so I only find out what's happened when I get returned checks, of course with returned check charges and a decrease in my credit scores. Did the same with our health savings account so I got returned checks from that as well. Yes, my attorney is aware and I pray to God that he gets punished for this legally. Also he put a mutual account of savings we had into Only his name with no notice. Took me off all the insurance contracts. There is a Law against this during divorce, but did he care? Of course not.....he is "above the law". I'm sure he did not do this without consulting his attorney (who I hate almost as much as I hate him) and so now I have to spend the extra money to file a court complaint, etc. etc. When I confronted him (bad idea) and said "you're not going to get away with this" his response was "Yeah, yeah, yeah". What is really scary to me is that this man is far from stupid and there must be some legal defense he feels will justify his actions. BTW, I have been extremely frugal in my spending since separation so it's not like I was spending money on anything but rent, food, gas, bills etc. He is so selfish I cannot believe it. In the meantime he has spent literally thousands of dollars on gifts to girlfriends, wine, trips, clothing, new furniture, etc. But he is Such a Martyr! He "can't afford" to fund the health savings account because he is on a "mission trip" providing free care to the poor in Honduras.......

#12 Mar 17 - 5PM (Reply to #3)

Barbara (not verified)

cassiemay

I would bet money he DIDN'T ask his attorney - he just did it. So make SURE he is punished. Keep records of all the fees and bank records. Make sure he pays you back all those fees, penalties and so on... No Judge is gonna believe him. NONE. And you can also tell your attorney (remember the attorney WORKS for YOU so be proactive!) that you want penalties on him for EVERY SINGLE DELAY he throws up. EVERY SINGLE ONE for wasting your & the court's time INCLUDING your ATTORNEY FEES for covering all these delays. ALL OF IT. Money seems to "talk" to him so when he has to PAY for his nonsense - watch him settle. And do NOT take his calls, texts, etc. No communication. Your answer to everything has to be TALK TO MY ATTORNEY and then your attorney's phone number. DO NOT LET HIM JERK YOU AROUND. No contact. NOTHING. You will like this one: http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/manipulator/martyr.shtml He will have his accounts stripped and still say he's above the law and STILL insist he "won." Whatever... just take his money and RUN. Barbara http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com

#13 Sep 9 - 8AM (Reply to #4)

Barbara (not verified)

Narcissists Trample Boundaries & Are Control Freaks

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#14 Mar 28 - 10PM (Reply to #6)

Amazed

I always thought it was strange when the exN

I felt very angry when the exN would go to his office, and undress in there, from his suit to his "visitation clothes" which included jeans and sweatshirt. I always though it was wrong,,like a violation of boundaries. First of all, you have other people there in the office while you are closing the door and doing all this. Second of all, he does not pull down the shades, so all sorts of bystanders can see him across the way.. Not to mention that the jeans he wore for his visitation had the pants with holes all over the ass,,so you could see his underware,,,hmm,,,now I understand his manipulation.

#15 Oct 27 - 5PM (Reply to #5)

itreallyisabouthim

Barbara, what do you do when

Barbara, what do you do when your ex N does that to you (walks into your bedroom??????)

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