"Obviously" coming from divorced parents = "The one at fault"

Hi all,

This is one "unforgivable" scenario out of many that I experienced with my ex and his parents:

My ex together with his parents tried to convince me that I "obviously" had "problems" as I came from divorced parents. He told me once during our final fight that he read in a book that a study was made where 5 people from divorced parents were tested and the results proved that all were "bound" to have relationship/communication problems due to their parents divorce (i.e: they too will end up being divorced). So I guess for my ex I too fell under this "category" as me trying to sit down and communicate to try and "resolve" our problems was in fact "the wrong" way of handling things/classified as having "communication problems". So much so that his parents even confronted me in telling me that I need to seek counseling. I ask myself today were they saying this in order to protect him and him trying to protect himself?? As he had some MAJOR "issues" from his past relationships. For example once told me in regards to his "exes" that he "never forgives and never forgets" - Now you tell me, how healthy is THIS way of thinking??!

I know that my ex is a complete idiot for even saying/believing such things and I know he was quite possibly using this to "defend" himself by making me feel "unworthy/like crap"- though I question how on earth do he and his parents think that they have a right to pass judgement and categorize someone like this when they have no strong "evidence" to support what they're saying (other than "by the way you handle things")??! Does it not occur to them that this would only push me further away and that this is no way of "solving" things??

Them ultimately treating me like this made me realize that I didn't want to be involved/married to someone who thinks like this of me. It makes me SICK to my stomach that they even have such a way of thinking in order to "get what they want" - which was for me to move back in with him. His father in reconfirming this to my face (with my ex happily listening as if his father was doing him a great favor) thought he was "helping" his son in "winning" me back but in fact the way I see it, he only dug his sons grave as it only pushed me further away.

Feel free to add what you think of this - I just needed to get that off my chest as till this day (as you can tell) it bothers me.