One last question Ladies lol

She will not get it better she will be exploited You are not describing love here by any stretch. What you are talking about is a command using women for what he can get from her and if her culture breeds her to be more accepting of his sickness the all the better for him. There is no getting it better for any of his women. All will suffer. Do not get confused by this. He is a preditor to all of you.

Here is the crude reality... to an N a hole is a hole is a hole.

You are awesome...who cares if he had a "type" or anything! He's a jerk! You are not a Foreman Grill but a Thermadore Gas Stove baby! ;-)

something to think about: If your freak N had a "type" that he went for, i.e. Chinese, Tiawanese, etc. and you are not, then you must REALLY BE SOMETHING...not the opposite that you are feeling! He went out of his 'norm' to get you! More importantly, Light, I know you are experiencing this CD and venture into somewhat "magical thinking" because of the recent narc attack. But I want to remind you that these disordered freaks choose their prey not necessarily based on the outer appearance, though they again may prefer a "type." They choose us for the qualities they want but cannot have (as you state above). These qualities include integrity, compassion, empathy, dignity, self-awareness, etc. Unfortunately, they also choose to exploit these characteristics, and can hone in on any issues for exploitation and manipulation. For example, you may have it all going on (from what I read from you) but somehow you do not "feel" that fully inside because if you did this question would not bother you so much. Same with introducing him to your Chinese girlfriends. In other words, he exploited your tendency to be a bit insecure about yourself and viola! here you are feeling insecure and "less than." BULLSHIT! The opposite is true. For the record, I was completely different in looks from Freak Boy's 'usual' supply bait (tall, blonde glamour queens). He choose me for my differences and I know that, though he exploited my insecurities in being myself through constantly trying to mold me into a more "girly" person (I am short, have short hair, wear neckties and a tailcoat sometimes, ride a motorcycle, etc...what can I say I love the 80s!!) So basically what I'm saying, Light, is DO NOT ACCEPT HIS CHARACTERIZATION OF YOU. REJECT HIS NONSENSICAL THOUGHTS ABOUT WHAT IS DESIRABLE OR NOT. HE'S ONLY LOOKING AT SUPPLY. A NEW TOASTER, A NEW SOFA. You are desirable because you are YOU. He desired you and continues to do so (not that it matters because he's not good for you and his desire is a hollow need for supply and you are not an interchangable appliance.) Here is a blog from Lisa that might help. http://www.lisaescott.com/2011/04/23/why-narcissist-chooses-us I hope this helps some. It's not a direct answer but I really want to share my thoughts in hopes that you will stop this train of thought and feel good about yourself for who you are! I see a strong, smart, funny individual and I want you to see that too. Hugs and good vibes from, (not) spinning. AND IT FEELS GREAT

I believe the Chinese culture is geared towards being submissive to men.. So if they come from a first generation culture, submission is what he's after.. I like that "bennaton " add.. Teehee.. I will say they tend not to discriminate .. It's a free for all to use and abuse.. Again trying to figure out the mind of a Psychopath is a waste of time.. Nuts is still Nuts..:)