PROUD to be despised by the psychonarc.........

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PROUD to be despised by the psychonarc.........

the last couple of days have been very eye opening for me...actually getting to see a lot of his undermining lying conniving bullshit in print...seeing in his own words how much he despised me...

i've got some news for the psycho that he will never hear...
i'm PROUD that he despised me....especially after seeing what a bunch of twisted enabling pieces of shit he considered his friends and loved ones.......

THANKS FOR HATING ME, YOU BASTARD....it means i was always doing something RIGHT....all along!!..

narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)
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the company he kept.........
the psycho also came to prefer those who knew he was a monster...for years he hid it....used me and other decent people as a front...as a shield...but in his final years he embraced those who were like him...and accepted him for what he was..... and i noticed that too...that back when i did care about it...and told him...it angered him....everyone who ever extended a hand to him...he bit it off at the wrist.. he despised the people who cared about him.....and embraced the ones who cared the least......always.........
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Isn't ironic, don't you think?
When the ex-N asked me why I liked him (I FINALLY confessed my feelings for him after 3 years,and thinking I had come to love a nice guy, and that he loved me),I told him he was helpful, generous, good, etc. He asked in anger. Interestingly, he said I was projecting these qualities in myself onto him. An interesting compliment... Then again, he was an inverted narcissist,the type who can't take compliments/praise well. They hate on themselves.. and others. It looks like humility.
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My exN would pretend to not
My exN would pretend to not like compliments, just so he could get more and play the victim more. He would be generous and helpful just to get supply.

Ending the dance

Barbara (not verified)
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Susan32
how dare you make him human! he's not human he's above all that Not INVERTED - just self-deprecating to get compassion & compliments out of people. They DO NOT HATE THEMSELVES AT ALL!!!! QUITE THE OPPOSITE!!! it's the little people like us they HATE - how dare we try to relate to them! ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
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Like exposing a vampire to sunlight
Once I started catching my ex-N in his lies, it turned out I was the one who held the reins. As one of my friends told me, I was the emotionally DOMINANT one. I was the STRONG one. I wasn't the crying, weeping, helpless little girl once I caught my ex-N in his lies. He was acting like an animal that was surrounded. From the get-go,he was acting as if karma was on his butt. He told me,"I've hurt a lot of people... I don't know how to relate to people." He sensed he was in trouble, just as someone knows when they see a cop's sirens and flashing lights. He had seen me miserable, he was the one who reduced me to tears in front of my friends--but once I caught him, he was the one claiming to be "violated",and "disrespected"... he was the one begging for mercy. My worst insult? Telling him that I liked spending time with him because I saw him as a good friend, that I enjoyed his company. He seemed to prefer the people who kept their distance from him because they hated his guts. He preferred the people who deemed him a monster to those who considered him human (such as myself) It set him off when I rattled off a list of those who cared for him- his parents, his sister, myself--- And I didn't tell him about the people who cracked masturbation jokes about him behind his back.
CarolKittyGale (not verified)
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exactly right
this is so true....the more true to yourself you are the more they turn on you....
Barbara (not verified)
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evidence
the harder they smear and attack - the more truthful you are being the more they devalue - the better you are getting at boundaries the more lies they tell to you & about you - the stronger you are at demanding accountability from them their hate is evidence of your good character ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
wallaby (not verified)
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Wow.
Well said. That feels exactly right.
quietude (not verified)
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that's right
WELL said ladies! Wear it like a badge of honor!
sanctuary
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Thanks Barbara. I must be
Thanks Barbara. I must be doing something right because he just keeps coming after me!! I usually just feel like I'm being beaten up and what I do is pointless. That helped.