seancunningham

If its all just an act, surely their live in GF after so many years can see how their relationship changed with them too, but yet these GF stay with them living with them sharing a life with them is it just because they dont see thru the act or because they know what he is and as long as they can accept it they stay? Some dont discard the GF , and some do after many many many years. I think they hide their life from their GF and want to keep her around to do laundry and cook and care for his needs and if they can get by fooling her they will keep her as long as they can. Can you imagine if he wasnt excited with me sexually after a few times, can you imagine how sick of her he is after 8 years? Well like all the other woman say, the sex life was awful, maybe once a month or two and only because they HAD to to keep them around. There is my dream that is what I would have walked into same thing she has to put up with he would spent himself sexually on everyother woman but me. I think they still have to keep up the act that they love their GF they do that to make them look normal and it hides their other life too. I am glad I finally ended it two months ago, the filthy things he said to me I would cry after I hung up, I dont do that anymore must have been a big blow to his ego, he thought I would stick around forever and be impressed with his mill home, and boat and his exp toys turning down trips to exotic places to have orgies with him ***** star hotels, NO THANKS I am a person that needs to like the person I am with not the materials he owns. I am in so much less pain now that he is out of my life, and I gave up a full blown psychopath.

They are consummate liars. I wasted 30 years in a marriage and now am left with nothing. He left with all the cash (almost $300,000) and I am left with all the bills and supporting 6 people. I am working with a lawyer, but the house is worth that much, so I may not end up getting any back. I am supporting a daughter and her children (one a baby with heart defects so my daughter needs to take care of her and can't work) and another daughter also who is suffering from depression and many scars from her dad and has tried to kill herself twice and just got arrested, mutual domestic violence, her b/f psycho woke her up because he had snooped on her phone and found a text, he hit her, she hit back, they both got arrested. I am lucky that I have some very supportive family who have stood by me, 2 wonderful brothers, and some good friends, several of whom have had N spouses as well. Mine was SUCH a good liar, he showed no signs whatsover of lying, would stare at you with good eye contact, not the least flinch or least sign in his body language, and look and act SO SINCERE! GAG! But, I was seeing tons of red flags and he would be up until all hours on the computer, saying he was working on "stock charts" and trying to make money. Yeah right. So, I put a program on the computer that records all IM's, chats, keystrokes, websites visited, e-mails opened and written. I could legally do this since it was community property, and I owned the computer as well. You just could not believe all the deviousness and deceptiveness and the depravity! I don't think I will ever be the same. He was on 10 dating sites (including some that were explicitly for sex, Ashley Madison, sex in your city, cheating wives, etc.) some yahoo groups for some sexual perversions he was into (I won't gross you out here), multiple women he had internex sex with, and 3 women locally he saw regularly! He was retired and I was the one working full time. This is what he did with all his free time and MY money! He said absolutely horrible things about me, what a cold fish I am, how perverted I am, how I won't have sex with him but see younger guys that I have sex with! All to get sympathy! (None is true!) At some point I am thinking of seeing if the cyberpaths web site would be interested in seeing 6 months of his activity! He is the ultimate con man! He would buy groceries and charge "visa gift cards" with it, so when I paid the bill I just saw a bill to the grocery store, and he would use the gift cards to buy gifts or to pay hookers! They are extremely devious and SICK SICK SICK. I am sure I am suffering PTSD and I feel numb much of the time. Even getting upset writing this and reliving it, I still feel numb. And...he is on his merry way with the money and lining up more victims. I just have to keep up the journaling and reminding myself how lucky I am to see the truth and be free!

I know, its just sad all that wasted love I had for nothing but a sick SOB. They wanted us to believe they were so great and the dream of our lives when they knew they were nothing but scum and shit. He wasted my life and THAT pisses me off like nothing I have felt before.