Setting bounderies
Setting bounderies
Hi All,
I want to start a recovery topic each week on Mondays which we can dialog about throughout the week to help us all in our efforts towards recovery and in changing US (the only one we can change) so that moving forward we do not continue to repeat the patterns which got us here in the first place.
The first topic is Setting our own personal Bounderies and what this means. I have always had trouble setting bounderies in relationships where I become gaga for the guy. When I do not feel those "intense love" feelings I do O.K. With the last narc, I allowed him access to my personal space, finances, and in a short period of time felt like my life was no longer my own. What can I do differently today?
Today: I will wait until I know someone well before I share with them my personal business regarding finances.
Today: I will not give in to sexual advances simple because "he" is pressuring me to act quickly and create a false ready made bond when I am not even sure who this person is. Today I believe it takes longer than a few weeks to get to know someone and whether or not they are right for me. Sex for me creates a bond which is difficult for me to break free of once that closeness is established. Today, I will take my time.
Today: I will not be pressured into living together if I feel uncertain about who and what this person is to me and my life.
Today: I will not agree to sexual activities which do not feel right to me.
Today: I will pay attention to the red flags which are my intincts way of telling me to "get out" and "get away" something is just not quite right.
This is just a few for now. Add to them, comment on them, whatever you want. I believe it is empowering to state your bounderies as affirmations and repeat them daily until they become a part of who and what you are now.
Goldie
thanks for this Goldie, how
I know what you mean
To Goldie
Boundaries
CougarBabe
Great Topic!
Journey on...
Take it slow
Goldie
Journey on...
To Journey
on purpose
Taking care of yourself
Goldie