sexless!!

I feel due to my high sexual drive...I found this POS. But ever since I broke up w/ him last summer- my sexual drive is all gone. I hope it comes back one day.

Ever since I left the POS a year ago, went full NC the past 6 months...I have had no desire to have sex. I don't work out like I used to because it reminds me of him and his love for beautiful bodies. I don't shop for clothes at the same stores, I dress more conservative these days. But I feel the BP medication I have been on for a couple months have a lot to do with my sexual libido. Years of constant stress I'm sure contributed to my high blood pressure...

I had sex with a guy 9 months after I left the N. We had a four month fling. It was great for what it was. I didn't want the exN to be the last man I slept with as I wanted to get rid of that connection. What I did discover was that I'd had it in my head my exN and I were great in the sack when we did do it which became pretty non existent over the last couple of years. Anyway, my new discovery was that this man was SO much better by a long stretch, I got rid of the myth in my head that exN was good, I realised it was an illusion in my head along with many other illusions. I'm so glad I did this as it really helped me feel like an independent woman again with choices. The next man was only 23, but hey it's great to be a woman and I realised how mechanical the N was. He watched far too much porn to be any good, it was all in his head. Yuk fat repulsive sweaty narc

No desire . . None whatsoever . . . It's repulsive to me right now. I'm still trying to get over feeling violated. Emotionally and physically . . .

Ok, to be brutally honest, I won't go near the self-satisfaction thing because when I have thought about it, I think about him and it freaks me out. The strangest thing about being away from him is being actually afraid of having sex with him. He seems so scary to me now. Just creepy and scary. I don't want to think about it, but being by myself I can't help it. He used to make me sext him all day and ask for photos and most of the time i would end up . . . well, you know. My whole life was tied up in sex with and without him, but always attached to him. The idea of thinking of Johnny Depp or someone is just not an option at this point!

In a drunken frenzy, I had sex with someone about a month after the N and I split up. I was reminded about how the N thought he was GREAT in bed, but this guy made him look like an amateur! I usually don't just do things like that, but hell I needed it! :) And yes, I will have sex again. I can imagine it with just about anyone but the N!!!!!!!!!

i felt the same way... we broke up once for 6 years (of 27 years together) and during those 6 years i went for 5 1/2 years sexless because i couldn't let anyone else touch me. understand my n marrieds someone else and i was nc at the time as well. then, it became me just not being interested in sex at all, until i met this hot young guy at work...and that did it! of course the crazy thing is that even though the n and i had not spoken for 6 years, once the young guy came into my life, 4 months later the n was back. what did i do...you guessed it. i left the young guy and went back to the n! ugh!!!!! and now i am fighting myself to get back to nc. but back to you :) i say, go for it! pf

Yep, same here! Our sex life was insane, supposedly neither of us had ever experienced this type of passion with anyone else. I say supposedly because now I have no idea what the heck he was up to. It has been a lot longer for me without sex but that is because he kept coming around dangling the carrot in front of me so that I would continue to be in his life. The tough part for me is that I can't imagine it with anyone else although I have finally started dating. Hopefully that will come back soon!