Slow Recovery - or starting to wallow?
Slow Recovery - or starting to wallow?
Most of the time I feel quite good, somes days I actually think I've worked through it all and I'm out the other end finally. Then I have times like now, mainly when I have an alone weekend - my kids are with their dad - and I start to feel really sad.
I've been through an extensive stint of counselling - my therapist was wonderful, I was a wreck at the beginning after we were discarded, barely functioning when I first went to her, it was her that first mentioned the narcissism word and she helped me a great deal with her knowledge and wisdom. I was on anti depressants for 6 months, I have read so much about narcissism since then, read this board pretty much daily to keep myself informed on narcissism, that there was no hope for us to work, that I'm not the only person who has gone thru this and yet at times I'm really sad.
I'm 13 months out of the relationship and nearly 6months NC (apart from one small message from him for my birthday). I am starting to worry this sadness about that relationship being so disastrous, emotionally, financially is never going to really go away.
I know he has moved on he cannot be alone at all - ever, he would probably not be giving me and my kids a seconds thoughts, that should motivate me to do the same in myself towards him, yet it doesn't. I didn't want my life to be like this- alone in my 40's, I'm not good at being alone yet have had to learn to be I guess, and I don't want another man to just fill the void, I've tried dating and it didn't feel right so I decided to give myself at least another 6 months before trying again.
I watch a movie and there are couples in love and I get jealous then angry, then sad coz I thought I had that with him, I see my friends who are in happy relationships, I'm happy for them, but think what the hell is wrong with me that I just can't find what they have...then the other side of me says I have a good life, kids, friends, family, good job make that enough - however deep in my heart I wanted it all.. a nice man to come home to at the end of the day.
I don't like having self pity parties, but I am today.. it's a crappy day. I guess I'm just worried it is taking me longer to get over these feelings than most, so I thought I'd put it out there with you all to see. If I am slower in healing than I should be?
I'd really appreciate some of your opinions...
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