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#1 Apr 5 - 3PM
herlatestvictim
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Struggling with sarcasm

I work with my N. My N also has a relationship with another woman in our office (I found out after many lies and denials). Now it's like she sits on a see saw between us both, when she's high with one the other is down, etc.. It's very painful but I am 100% sure she is a narcissist and trying desperately to keep contact to a minimum but I still react from time to time with sarcasm, particularly in reference to this other woman.

How can I stop reacting? I want to be done and out of this madness but reacting draws me in, even saying hello seems to draw me in, she is sweet one day and cold the next...

Ugh. I can't go totally NC because we work together.

Help

Apr 5 - 8PM
ForeverLearning
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Ultimately

Ultimately seeking a new job (eventually) is probably the answer, to completely cut her out of your life. I know the 'new job' thing is easier said than done in today's economy. Other than that, reading as much as you can here every day, the scientific articles Barbara posts from psychologists and such, is very helpful. Daily learning and reminders that this is a very serious, very negative Personality Disorder falling under the Cluster B grouping of Psychiatric Disorders, is helpful in understanding, that you don't want any part of her mental problems. Her brain is broken, and there is no cure. Only pain and suffering for everyone who keeps her as a part of their life. The more you learn, the further along you will get on your journey to healing, peace and authentic happiness in life. Barbara's advice is priceless and right on target - be a robot when having to interact with her at work, and keep it to the bare minimum required in each situation. No emotions spent on her, no emotions given to her to feed her 'high' off of playing games with you. She will have to find a new victim, you have wised up to her shenanigans. All the best to you!
Apr 5 - 4PM
Barbara (not verified)
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no EMOTIONAL CONTENT!!!!!!

no EMOTIONAL CONTENT. you're a ROBOT around her. Just BLANK. ~~~~~~~~~ Repetition does not transform a lie into the truth. - Franklin D. Roosevelt Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals