SUCH DESPAIR TODAY
SUCH DESPAIR TODAY
I probably shouldnt be writing a forum topic when I am this emotional, I lost my job in June, my husband and I are trying to save our marriage, while trying to put behind me the damage of Mr Con Man, I broke down today and told my husband you are better without me, I am no good to you or anyone, I am a broken person. I want to just live by myself for the rest of my life so NOBODY CAN EVER HURT ME AGAIN. My husband looked into my puffy eyes and said, I WILL NEVER HURT YOU, and I DONT WANT THAT KIND OF LIFE FOR YOU, TO LIVE ALONE, YOUR PARENTS WOULD NOT WANT THAT KIND OF LIFE FOR YOU EITHER. He is aware what happened to me (but I didnt get into the sick details) he was understanding all he could say about my predator was he is sick and not right, the wires and circuits will never be right, you were at the wrong place at the wrong time and you were violated by this sick person and I dont blame you for being a victim anymore that I can blame a woman that is raped. I know why this happened, you were wanting to be loved, the love you have not felt from me for years and years in our marriage, and he said that is MY FAULT for making you feel you were so unworthy, but the truth is he told me, I would die without you, I am dying right now inside from what has happened to you, my once loving caring giving wife who is no just an empty shell, a zombie that wont let me in, that wont let me love her like I want to, pushes me away when I even go to kiss her, Then he said something amazing, he said, LET ME HELP YOU get on with OUR live together. What can I DO SO WE DONT LOSE EACH OTHER AND ALL THE YEARS WE HAVE SHARED. we cant throw it all away over a sociopath, that would be a very sad ending to us and you. After my husband said all that, I told him I would try to let him in but there was so much damage done to me its going to take alot of love and patience on your part. While we are connected and in the world of these sociopaths and being brainwashed we have no clue what is being done to us, its not until we step out of the illusion that we step back and see the damage that we had done to us, crying hysterically I looked at my husband and said do YOU want to see another man screw me? Do I look like just a whore to you? He COULD NOT BELIEVE WHAT CAME OUT OF MY MOUTH, he said THAT IS SICK, why in the hell would you think you are a whore? You are nothing but a classy, beautiful, woman inside and out, this sick disordered man could never ever have a woman of your caliber you are way out of his league, men like that want to bring women of your stature DOWN to their sick level. Today I went back in time to what I was before this creature entered my life, I closed my eyes and focused on what I was and who I was, a good mother, a good wife, a good daughter, I remember the innocence I once had and the trust and faith I had in people, I remember how a kitten or a puppy would make me feel warm inside, I remember what it felt like holding my father for the last time, and all that love I had inside me, now I can stand outside myself and see what I am today. He took everything from me and I cant find a way to get it back, the pain prevents me from moving forward, and I am TRYING, GOD KNOWS I AM TRYING. I walked away from him with my head held high, though all the filth, sexual degrading, lies, betrayal beyond belief, my family torn apart, my marriage torn apart, and myself torn apart, I still left proud of who I was, knowing I must leave this sick man to his own vices and the life he chooses to live. The victims are always left to this painful journey of realization and truth, we want to know all the WHY's even when we know what they are, we still try to make sense of it, and you never will, My predator will die never having the slightest clue of the destruction he did to my life, and all our lives, but again thats why they call them psychopaths.
cynthia
Be easy on yourself
He's not worth it
cynthia
We have way too much in common, Cynthia.....
Monica
ellen
Cynthia
thank you Ellen and Girlfriend
Dear Cynthia