talking to a therapist
talking to a therapist
So I've been to see a therapist once and I go back tomorrow. I'm a little worried about the fact that she didn't seem to understand what happened to me. For instance, I remember her saying, "maybe you were the storm in his life for the past three years."
Now, I didn't go through a lot of what you all went through. I think he cheated on me off and on for a while. He did invite another woman to Hawaii to visit him during a port call while we were engaged and he did urge me to move to Guam where he was supposed to go.
BUT: he certainly never hit me and really seldom was angry at me (exasperated sometimes and critical sometimes). He helped look out for me after I had a bad car accident (pushed me around the grocery store in a wheelchair) and could be very sweet to me.
I, of course, mostly remember a lot of good times, of snuggling and feeling happy when we were together.
So... I'm not sure if there is something I need to convince her of... or how to do it... or if it's necessary. Does it matter?
The only thing is... I want to explain why I'm really struggling with anxiety and not being able to just pick up the pieces and start over.
She does, at least, agree that he's a coward for how he abandoned me.
The other piece is that I spoke on the phone to the counselor that he and I saw together a couple of times this summer (because I didn't want to move to Guam) and she saw him once at his own request, after his fling in Hawaii. She DEFINITELY sees that he's incredibly shallow, about an inch thick, and she was horrified by how he treated me. She also thinks that I deserve much better in life than what he could give me.
Advice??? Switching counselors here is not an option. It's a small place and not many choices or opportunities.
Ms. Jeeves
Thanks everyone!
Ms. Jeeves
One possibility is to use
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