Toonice's story
Toonice's story
Hi I am not sure where to start. I am divorced and started dating 20 mon. ago. I realized 9 mos. ago that this man is just not giving anything to the relationship at all.
He was wonderful to be with during the first 4-6months.
Then it all went downhill when I stopped agreeing with things in his life having to do with how he was dealing or better said.. Not Dealing with his custody of his kids.
He would just stop talking to me for days... nothing like he put me in NC?? I would call and he was like... nothing ever happened.
This past May 09 I had it with all of it and walked out left the key and took what few things I had there.
He never called nothing at all didn't try to talk to me. After 6 days I couldn't stand it and called.
At this time I didn't know he was a N.
It was right before his last custody hearing that he said to me,Do you think I am a N? I was surprised for I had heard this word but never knew what one was. So I went home that night and looked it up. Well his ex wife claimed he was one and then a month later his sister told me he had 5 of the 7 criteria? now why would she tell me this? So My radar went up.
months later and a lot of feeling like I tried hard to make this work and it is never going to. He claims that nothing in our relationship has changed ...??? but yet he no longer kisses me or hugs me or acknowledges me.
we have sex well not sure anymore.... been 2 wks? and that is about average.
The last time we fought he screamed at me that we were not married and he could do as he wished and then turned it all around and blamed me. Well that was it and I just let him go and ignored him. He blames everyone but himself for his problems.
my problem is I seem to get to about a week away from him and I break NC. I need a place where I can post my urge to talk to him so that I don't call him.
I know I need to be away from him he is toxic and has made me a miserable person.
my birthday was a perfect example he showed up 3 hrs late for our trip to the beach. had time to get a haircut though! and he knows how to push my buttons there too... I hate a certain way he gets it cut and when he wants me to back off and be in a pissy mood he does this.
he slept the 90 min trip to the beach. We ate dinner and went to the hotel.He went to sleep and slept in. I got up and got coffee and walked the beach before he was even up.
No sex Nothing... nope he was totally nonaffectionate and I decided to head home the next day. I was driving.
He didn't invite me to his daughters ballet performance yet I was invited in the summer?
now it is the holidays and I am not a part of his family suddenly. He can't expose his kids to me? his exwife is dating and the bf is at her house this week like at thanksgiving and he can't deal with it. So he needs me to not be around suddenly.
so I am running... fast as I can trying to shed the toxic ooze that comes from him.
just need support so I don't turn back and crumble and let him in again.
I know this has to end for there is nothing he can give for he is an empty heartless person with no feelings for anyone but himself. The last time I saw him I felt nothing it was like staring at a stranger I had no interest in at all. I guess I've started to finally detach.
thank you for listening.
trying to stay NC
toonice
Toonice
thanks to all of you
Toonice
Run!
Definitely stay away. It's
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