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Trying to sell this stupid ring...

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#1 Sep 23 - 5PM
juliamarie
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Trying to sell this stupid ring...

Agh....so I was engaged to my Narc, and our wedding was set for Nov. 5th. He gave me a ridiculously large, UGLY ring. And now I'm obviously trying to get rid of it.

I took it to a diamond broker who offered me 1/100th of what he paid for it. I was told that the best thing to do was to either find an individual who wanted to by it directly from me (not likely...wouldn't even know how to get that done). The second option was to have my exNarc contact the jeweler where he bought it and ask them if they would be willing to buy it back. I thought that was actually a great idea b/c the Narc spent about $80k on jewelry with these people over the past year, and they would probably be willing to give him more for the ring since he has been and will be a good customer in the future.

So, stupid me....contacted the Narc and politely asked if he would make a phone call. He flatly refused. I'm not shocked. But, now I'm stuck with an ugly ring that makes me violent when I look at it.

Anyone else go through having to try to sell a ring? I don't know what to do with this thing! I know this is more trivial for this forum, but I don't want this reminder of our failed relationship, but I don't want to just chunk it in the lake either.

Sep 24 - 8PM
onwithmylife
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My suggestion

pawn it , just get rid of it, i am going to a pawn shop to get rid of the ring he gave me or give it to a womens shelter for battered women to see if they can sell it and put it to good use!
Sep 24 - 7PM
Hunter
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Stick it in a safe deposit

Stick it in a safe deposit box. It's an instant savings account! Or keep it and have it reset! Hunter
Sep 23 - 7PM
Avid
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Yes I just got rid of mine

I was engaged also at one point during the realtionship and he had purchased me a beautiful wedding set and the idiot did not put the engagment ring on my finger and keep the band until the wedding (wedding what a joke), anyway I just went a couple of weeks and pawned the set. I had called the jewerly store where he purchased it but they would not discuss anything because the purchase was not in my name. I looked online for pawn shops in my area. I called a few and i finally decided to go to one, and I was nervous whenI walked it because it was like another chapter of him closing. He paid two thousand dollars for the set, and I pawned it for a whopping two hundred dollars. He does not care about me so I did not care when I pawned the ring and the slip they gave me to pick it up I tossed it. I had no intentions of getting the set out of the pawn shop. So my advice is do what yu have to do and calling the ex would not help because mine has new supply so he could care less about anything that involves me.
Sep 23 - 7PM (Reply to #9)
juliamarie
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Agh...hate to hear that

But I guess this is my reality. I just want rid of the bad juju
Sep 23 - 5PM
Goldie
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Juliamarie

Craigslist or ebay. Also some jewelry stores allow you to sell it through their estate jewelry or consignment section if they have such a department. Keep in mind that the market right now is over saturated with diamonds and you would be lucky to get half of what it is worth unless it is spectacular and Narc got a great deal on it, in that case you may get a bit more, you may have to take even less than half if you do it that way. Can you go to the jewelry store where he bought it yourself or would that be awkward for you? That's what I did and they didn't mind, they took it back. I brought it back soon after he bought it though, so the time frame will play into it. If it's engraved, forget about it, you will have to take less unless it is thick and they can file down the engraving, still you will get less. Craigslist is easy though, you take a few pics, put how much it cost new, say that is is still new, and let them know if it is engraved, the size, and put on an asking price and if you are not firm on the price, say or best offer and see if you get any bites. God bless, Goldie
Sep 23 - 5PM (Reply to #7)
juliamarie
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Good suggestions

I would love to get half....or even a third of what he paid for it! I'm not being greedy...but 1/100th of the cost didn't seem right. Unfortunately, he purchased the ring in CA so as to avoid taxes....and I'm in Texas. So, it's not like I can just walk in there with the ring. I emailed the woman that sold him the ring, but I haven't heard from her. That is actually why I requested his help with this endeavor because I KNEW she would jump through hoops for him. I doubt she's really excited about buying the ring back from me since I'm not the one with money :) It's a nice ring for the right person. It was never my thing. A little too big and heavy. I'm a petite girl so it was hilarious that he thought this would ever be something that I would want.
Sep 23 - 5PM
Swan
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ring

Craigslist?
Sep 23 - 5PM (Reply to #2)
juliamarie
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Will I get scam artists?

I've thought about it....but I'm worried I'm just going to get a bunch of crazy people trying to scam me out of my ring.
Sep 24 - 1PM (Reply to #5)
Susan32
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Direct the scam artists to your Narc!

They'd appeal to his vanity, delusions of grandeur, and he'll assume they're telling the truth. Besides, I heard your Narc has a GRAND PRIZE of lots of $$$ in the UK. All he has to do is send his bank account info.
Sep 23 - 5PM (Reply to #3)
Swan
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probably some

but your radar is probably super sensitive now to alert you to anyone that seems off. If they seem off, don't do business with them. And never meet up etc with anyone alone. You know, you know how to protect yourself now. You are wiser because of all the Narcrap. You certainly are prepared to handle a simple scam artist!!!!
Sep 23 - 5PM (Reply to #4)
juliamarie
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LOL

Yes, my radar is super sensitive now. I pity the person who tries to mess with me now! I would probably set this up and have my brother be the "point" person I guess. It's an option. I could really use the money. I let my house practically fall apart because we had bought a new house together. I have a lot of things that need to be done to keep the roof from caving in!