U are dead wrong?

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#1 Nov 20 - 11AM

Sea

U are dead wrong?

I am having a sleepless nite.

A coworker from ex narc's firm came over to hand me some documents. She said this and it affects me "sumiko i dont know what's going on between u and narc. I am not a nosey person and this has nothing to do with me but there's something I must say. In all fairness, narc still cares about u. Just last week he amended his will to put your name back, he personally review the cases that u are involved in just to make sure u get quality stuff. I dont know what he did to u but if u think he doesnt care u are dead wrong!"

I dont care about the will. I never wanted his money ever and what good will it be since there are a dozen ow names on it? Again he is ranking me. He can count me out.

About the "care", i am dead wrong? He still "cares"? Really? What is his motive? Or its just scrambled eggs and random? This co worker is not narc's messenger. Maybe i shouldnt be analyzing too much.

Sumiko

#2 Nov 21 - 1AM

empath

sumiko

He is grooming her as supply, his technique is very stealth and disturbing. Stay out of it, and tell anyone that approaches you about the N that you choose to focus on professional matters only when at work. He is hoovering by proxy...this is dangerous to your career. Don't play this game.

#3 Nov 21 - 5AM (Reply to #17)

Sea

Empath actually being in the

Empath actually being in the same industry with ex narcky is giving me alot of grief. It is no doubt a damage for my career. I just i have to be strong and learn to cope better.

#4 Nov 21 - 12AM

ReclaimingPower

Oh girl

Call me cynical, but come on, he has got to be kidding! HE IS GOOD. Just like he zoned in on you as the compassionate, empathetic, kind soul he wanted to target, he knows who to feed information to or pull closer to suck into his game so it gets back to you. Don't be fooled. Master manipulator. I feel like I am in a Rocky Training session waiting for my N to come back. The jello is setting, except I want to be sure it is CEMENT when he comes knocking again. I wouldn't even give her the satisfaction of a reply. Change the subject to make her squirm so she realizes she's crossed the line and over into your boundaries.

#5 Nov 21 - 5AM (Reply to #15)

Sea

Thanks RP, actually i did not

Thanks RP, actually i did not give her any reply not because i know any better but more of i dont know how to react! lol

#6 Nov 20 - 11PM

Sea

Thanks to all who replied.

Thanks to all who replied. Actually i have been told so many times that how he cares and i should reach out etc it doesnt affect me at all. I think its because those are just opinions of others. This one is a notch up, she quoted an "observation" and manage to spin my head. Good thing is i can come here and talk about it. So its still narcky's long arms stretching into my personal space to slap me somemore :( looks like he loves messing my brains with all kinds of cruelty! Not a single nice (fake i know) i want u back hoover. Its always slapping me emotionally. Does it mean narcky is really all 100% done with me, no more idealisation left. He is just compulsively doing devaluation again n again??

#7 Nov 20 - 1PM

Done sourcing

The co-worker is a messenger.

The co-worker is a messenger. They told you information about the narc and his actions and feelings. Stop being fooled, and stop listening to him and his minions. Sorry you had a sleepless night...but we all have them and sound sleep will return. Maybe it is time to read some more about how to get onto the path forward, and start talking and planning how you are going to live the rest of your life. Plan some fun things, and different things for you to do to fill your time with new adventures and experiences. A walk, a visit to a museum, a bookstore, a deli. All adventures, all good! Today I will wash the car to perfection, and stay present in the moment and do the best I can. That is a new adventure for me, and I will do my best. I will also ride my bike and reach out to a couple of friends and not talk at all about my "problems". ds

#8 Nov 20 - 12PM

Hunter

Oh no.. She's not nosey ..

Oh no.. She's not nosey .. Really?? He's a narc doing narc stuff.. Your silence is pissing him off.. That's how he cares by trying to suck you back.. That's how much assclown cares, he's want to head fuck you all over again.. He may have even paid this woman to say what she said.. Ignore... Hunter

#9 Nov 21 - 6AM (Reply to #7)

Sea

Hunter - he paid her? Wow! He

Hunter - he paid her? Wow! He is not just a narc he is also a complete nuts!!

#10 Nov 21 - 7AM (Reply to #8)

Hunter

Sea

I don't know if monies were exchanged.. I was thinking about the will thing.. The SOB will out live you anyway.. The stress they cause us will kill us before they kick off.. Hey ...if it is the other way around enjoy the cash.. You deserve it:) Enjoy a Narc free day.. Hunter

#11 Nov 21 - 8AM (Reply to #9)

Sea

Hunter - that SOB Is already

Hunter - that SOB Is already in his 50s. I am 30yo. His mummy dearest is almost 90yo and could still play tennis! So u can imagine how stress-free these disordered people are and longevity is assured. As for narc paying that minion i think its possible cos he always thinks he can use money to make "wonders" and that could include proxy slapping me. For the will, well if his will is activated while am still around i would split his money to the temple and all charities he owe! Including this forum! Well this idiot changes his will 20x a year who knows when i will fall outa the top 20 chart! LoL

#12 Nov 21 - 8AM (Reply to #10)

Hunter

Sea

LOL! What ru sad over. He's and old man.. Soon you'd be trimming his nose and ear hairs.. :) Gross.. Hunter

#13 Nov 21 - 8AM (Reply to #11)

Sea

Hunter

LOL! This narc is a vain pot. He trains his body with a personal trainer. He visits asthetic doctors to laser off his wrinkles. He some kind of hair specialist to make sure he doesnt go bald. So much effort and a whole toilet of his "beauty products"! More than i ever had. He is so afraid of aging. Like what Sam Vaknin said narc ages without grace. He is one classic example. He like to look for woman of a different race so that he wont me mistaken as their father! Oh but people often think i am his mistress or worse social escott. Maybe we looked really odd together. We were infact totally incompatible given that he is disordered.

#14 Nov 20 - 1PM (Reply to #5)

Done sourcing

Exactly, an assclowns

Exactly, an assclowns assistant delivers another blow! Like space invaders! But up close and personal. ds

#15 Nov 20 - 1PM (Reply to #6)

Syren66 (not verified)

I'm still chuckling over your

I'm still chuckling over your post about the narc going back up to the Mother Ship...that was classic, DS! :D

#16 Nov 20 - 11AM

Syren66 (not verified)

In All Fairness

Man talk about your basic passive-aggressive stunt! Everything she said to you is designed to make you feel bad about yourself. What a bitch! May she feel the pain of a thousand paper cuts...rendered by manilla file folders.

#17 Nov 20 - 11AM

ruby01 (not verified)

Sea

"sumiko i dont know what's going on between u and narc. I am not a nosey person and this has nothing to do with me but......" HAHA- I'm sorry, but that's down right laughable. She's right on all counts She doesn't know what's going on It has NOTHING to do with her She is nosey She should stay out of your business and think before she speaks!

#18 Nov 20 - 11AM

Hermes

Pay no heed Sumiko

He is just trying it on. That's all. My ex-NH would tell anyone who would listen about how much he loved me, bla bla. People would say to me, wonderingly, over the years since then: "But, he was mad about you". Others would say (and I know they meant well), "He loves you so much. Would you not consider getting back together". So, yes, I have heard that stuff too. It is all a mirage and means nothing. Be very very careful of any kind of "Malignant Optimism". Take care Hermes

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