The ultimate price of loving a N....
The ultimate price of loving a N....
I apologize in advance if this is long and rambly....but I need to get out what is in my head......Years ago my sisters marriage was falling apart. Her H cheated on her and the stories she told I could never understand why she stayed with him....or took him back.....or tried to make it work.
Soon after while my own divorce was going on I still couldn't phathom why she was doing this dance with her H......when my ex did what he did I knew what I had to do and did it standing firm....(my 1st ex was not a N.....neglectful.....but normal)....I just couldn't grasp what my sister was doing. I watched as my beautiful strong sister was falling down a deep hole and getting further from reality......
Our divorces were months apart......I carried on.....my sister was drownding......she pushed her family away....yet still told stories dealing with her ex.....I didn't get it......dump his damn ass already!!!
Then I met my N......it wasn't long after I married him I started down the same hole as my sister.....I did the same dance she did....I still didn't connect the dots however. My sister met a man and while not as bad as her marriage.....her relationship was rocky......as I started looking for answers for my own failing marriage things started to click a little......the more I read....the more I connected the dots..I painfully accepted my new H was a N......and my sister was once married to one too.....I now understood her pain like no one else....unfortunatly she was too far gone and her new relationship was paying the price.......don't get me wrong......her new guy had his faults.....but I knew my sisters intimatly as they were my own. I divorce my N and worked hard on me......I didn't want to take the path my sister did......she found solace in a bottle.....I found it with my T.
I couldn't talk to my sister as she put up not only walls but a phony brave face....we still heard the stories......her side and his.....I understood on a gut level that you just can't put into words for other people to comprihend.....I felt her pain and angiush deeply....I understood......I now understood her heartache at divorceing her H despite the horrible shit he did to her....I understood her reluctance to stop having anything to do with him........he destroyed my beautiful sister.....and her next relationship completly did her in......
I now in hindsight see how her N meticuluosly tore her down......sent her down that black hole.....that she never fully crawled out of when she met her next guy.....
My sister took her life on Tuesday......she paid the ultimate price of loving a N bastard who tore her down and ruined her.....I don't say these words lightly or lay blame where it doesn't belong......until I had my own personal run in with a N I never understood my sisters personal hell.....I never understood how a once strong beautiful woman was reduced to such a mess.....a mess that in the end it was easier to end her life than live with a pain so unbearable.....so haunting ......and so few people can even begin to comprihend......
I am sorry for rambling.......but please.......get these horrible people out of your life before they destroy you.
My heart goes out to you
tynk I can't express how sorry I am
I am
victimnomore
tynk
Dear TNK3377
tynk3377
Thank you!!
words can not express
Omg, tynk..I`m so sorry for
Thank you so much tynk3377
tynk
Thank-you everyone,
tynk3377 My heart is crying with you today
It's terrible
Tynk, my dear, what a tragedy
HUGS
I'm so sorry. My deepest
I am so sorry
My heart goes out to you and
tynk3377
I am sorry
Disbelief
OMG! How awful. I am so
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
I want to beat the crap out
I'd drive HIM out of HIS mind...
Dear Tynk, I am so terribly
tynk
This is terrible. They