Validating yourself

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#1 Nov 2 - 3PM
NoMoreFreakBoy
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Validating yourself

I having a low day today. Haven't had these " I was too pushy for him , It my fault it didnt work out" feelings for a long time. I had a disagreement with friend today and she told me, " I have no patience ...I don't think before I speak...I only think of myself..." Triggered me as exN would say same to me. During every devalue phase I had with exN, I would kind of panic when he started pulling away and I would push and push at him with questions as to why he pulling away, is there another woman, I miss your attention, etc. Eventually he would cut me off and discard me as he was tired of my " shit". I would feel so horrible about myself, blaming myself ....just like I doing today with my friend

Like I said, I haven't felt this low about myself in awhile , and historically I get that craving for validation from exN. I am trying to refocus my thoughts and keeping busy. I have no intention of breaking NC. I just hate feeling this way.

My question to forum members, is how do you validate yourself? What works for you?

Nov 3 - 2PM
ZanShin
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Toxicity

Nov 3 - 6PM (Reply to #7)
NoMoreFreakBoy
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I never realized it ...thank you

Nov 3 - 2PM (Reply to #6)
ZanShin
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PS: love-boming

Nov 2 - 7PM
Tired of going back
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I feel the same way today. I

Nov 2 - 5PM
Done sourcing
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Maybe burn the items you

Nov 2 - 5PM (Reply to #3)
NoMoreFreakBoy
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I got rid of

Nov 2 - 4PM
Laurelly82
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Oh wow, I've had the same day