Weird Laugh

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#1 Jun 19 - 8PM

finallydone

Weird Laugh

I think I saw this same topic on here awhile back but can't find it now. Does anybody else experience their N's having a weird, fake laugh and kind of over the top?

I'm jusr curious really. The jerk is upstairs right now watching TV in the extra room and keeps laughing really loud.

I'm just on here tonight reading and trying to keep focused. He left on Tuesday with more stuff. On Wednesday he informed me he was writing me a "final letter". On Thursday as I was driving home from work and was planning to take my son out to dinner with my neighbor friend and her son and then help set up her garage sale that we were participating in... I get an e-mail over my phone doing one of his normal get attention routines. "I really hate to ask , but I need a favor. Will you look in the filing cabinet upstairs and see if I left my health insurance file. I need info right now or I'm gonna have to drive back tonight and get it." Well of course I knew there was no emergency after 5:00 p.m. with his health insurance... but he is also quite capable of actually driving all the way back to make a scene and create drama... and I was in no mood. So I looked and there was no file and told him that. Then I said I was going to help a friend. (Don't ask me why I told him that... I have no good reason). He emails back "How nice you have time to help other people." Translates into..."you never help me".

This morning I get "I have to drive back today and get more stuff since I only have a week and a half left until the darkest day of my life. Oh and I'm not sending you my final letter because you would misconstrue it". Translates into, "I'm going to ruin your third weekend in a row by showing up... and I'm referring to the closing scheduled for July 1st.... and I'm throwin in comments about a letter to F with your mind".

So - he's back.... he could have packed up a load and gotten back on the road to Cincy. But... that's not the way it works. YOu see... he still owns the house... so he made himself at home upstairs and is cackling at the Dean Martin infomercial. Nothing against good old Dean... he's a classic. But I'm damn sick and tired of him laughing like a hyena.

On a good note... I ignored him well and watched "Last Chance Harvey". Really good movie if you haven't seen it. Kind of melancholy... but feel good. Hopeful.

#2 Jun 20 - 8AM

Carolyn

Wasn't the weird, cackling

Wasn't the weird, cackling laugh of the original Dracula a classic and copied by comedians-it emplies an inaproppriate affect-laughing madly while the person is doing something terrible to you. You might want to see if you could rent a copy of the 1940's movie Harvey. Its about a nice man, unemployed, who likes to mind game people pretending he hangs out with a 7 foot, talking,invisible rabbit named Harvey. His sister, who is his caretaker, ends up in a mental institution over the brother and the brother just rolls on. If the 'cackler' owns the house there isn't much you can do-he plans to game you. Is there anyway that through a mutual friend or as an answer from you to one of his DARK DAY letters that you could tell him you are not worthy of him and everybody knows it. I have never done that one but I did know a woman who did and she got rid of him. they like to feel superior and they like to feel they have a great reputation. If he was made to beleive that you were not worthy of him and other people knew it he might just go away. It can't hurt.

#3 Jun 19 - 10PM

grossot

weird laugh continued

Finally done You are too funny! I think I know the laugh. Furrowed eyebrows; huge joker mouth; loud loud loud loud loud! Yes we can all hear you. Your voice is ever present. We all know where you are at all times. I am more than pleased to end my phone conversation early or pause reading a book to my daughter b/c I can't hear or concentrate d/t your obnoxious very present laugh. In fact let's all just drop what we're doing so we can take joy in your voice! Gag me with a spoon! Be kinder than necessary to everyone you meet; for everyone is fighting some kind of battle - anonymous- :o) nolongercontrolled

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#4 Jun 19 - 11PM (Reply to #9)

Barbara (not verified)

don't forget

these Narcs can only MIMIC real people's behavior. Since they can't feel they can only mirror you (which they do early in the relationship) or pick up clues from books, movies, people watching etc. That's why the laugh seems so forced - like them - it's NOT REAL. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/

#5 Jun 19 - 10PM

Barbara (not verified)

finallydone

he may own the house but he PHYSICALLY ABANDONED IT. obviously you didn't call the lawyer this week and get that letter to tell him he's got just a couple weeks left to get his crap out and then you will be changing the locks - as well as telling him he shows to the refinancing or looses his rights. enough's enough - how long are you going to let this go on? He will drag this out forever. There's NO WAY he should be sitting in that house watching TV. Please leave the house while he's in it. And MONDAY - call the lawyer - explain the situation and GET RID OF HIM. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/

#6 Jun 19 - 10PM (Reply to #5)

finallydone

Barbara, I have talked to a

Barbara, I have talked to a lawyer. There is nothing I can do. Small claims court is the only way to go after the money from the last three months and it's not yet worth what itwould cost me to go to court. That's what really sucks about this.

#7 Jun 19 - 11PM (Reply to #6)

Barbara (not verified)

finallydone

so what's the endgame here? when he doesn't show on July 1 - what then? make your plan, finalize it and get rid of this leech. and get out of the house while he's there. he's getting off on screwing with your weekend. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/

#8 Jun 20 - 8AM (Reply to #7)

finallydone

Point well taken

Yes, I know there's a good chance he'll come up with some reason not to be there. I've already told the mortgage broker that if this occurs then I'll just have to drop it with them for now and take him to court and deal with all of that and hope they don't order the house sold. I'm obviously not the first woman to be in this situation and some are in much worse than I am. I am getting out of the house today. Going back over to help with garage sale and then I need to get nails done and go to the store. I wish I weren't so tired. I didn't sleep well last night... but I think that seems to be the norm. I hope someday soon it isn't. The up and down emotions - from sadness, to anger, to flatline and then to "I think I'm okay today" are just crazy. But you know the story. I appreciate your tough love approach... I just wanted you to be aware that I had seen a lawyer and the laws just haven't caught up with cohabitating non-married individuals.. unless you can clearly prove abuse... and that seems to be in the physical realm. The verbal and emotional is pretty hard to prove. Thanks Barbara!

#9 Jun 19 - 9PM

Suzie (not verified)

Mine does that too.

My N laughs weird. He rarely laughs or smiles at all he is very grumpy. He is just like bluto, from the popeye cartoons. My older boys think he has split personalities. They call this one "Dumb Dumb". He will watch a movie and laugh this loud, weird, kind of forced laugh. Ha Ha Ha. Kind of like a villian when he has someone trapped. It's kind of like a superior sounding laugh. And he laughs at things that are not all that funny. He doesn't laugh at apropriate times like when the younger kids do things that are cute, or say something adorable, everyone else in the room will laugh and find it amusing.But he never evan cracks a smile. He usually has no sense of humor. He takes things real litterally and he takes himself real seriously. He usually gets on to us if we are joking and acting silly. But when he is being "Dumb Dumb" it's like he is making himself laugh. I really think that he is sort of void of emotions except anger. He has no real joy. He just mimics other peoples emotional reactions. very over the top. It is almost scarier than when he is raging and threating me. Leah

#10 Jun 19 - 11PM (Reply to #2)

quietude (not verified)

laughing

Interesting subject. Mine actually didn't do that crazy laugh thing. I laugh very easily & find humor in just about anything. He, on the other hand, was very slow to laugh...he was very funny, but didn't really laugh much. He tried to be the serious mature one I guess! So it was a challenge to me to get him laughing, and it made me really happy when he did. This was my chance to 'zing' him...he'd just bust at sometimes even though he tried his damndest to keep strait. I can't believe how happy I was that he laughed, like that was some great accomplishment, when this should be the norm. One thing that always stood out in my mind about him is that for the most part, he was joy-less.

#11 Jun 20 - 10AM (Reply to #3)

Lisa E. Scott

Laughing

Yes, it is a manic laugh, ladies. Forced, like Barbara said, because they never feel true joy. It is a maniacal, evil laugh like the Dr. Evil from the Austin Powers movies. Scary stuff.

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