Weird sexual compulsions- warning- a bit gross

The ex-Psych prof idolized Paul Wittgenstein (the philosopher Ludwig's brother) who impregnated his half-blind piano student at her first lesson. Paul didn't marry her till after she had borne their second daughter. Paul was himself disabled (he lost an arm in WWI), but it didn't justify violating his student at her first lesson. Leo Tolstoy didn't do anything kinky with Sofia. Leo&Sofia's wedding night was basically a rape. Leo shrugged it off in his diary, but Sofia was so traumatized that she'd tell her daughters how sex was humiliating°rading. Leo would brag to his fellow authors (Anton Chekov, Ivan Turgenev) that Sofia was at the mercy of his immense sexual appetites. He'd force himself on her. Towards the end, he was neglecting his hygiene, and Sofia would be weeping&threatening suicide after sex. In her diary, Sofia noted "I don't exist except for sensuality." Leo Tolstoy was against abortion and artificial birth control. He made himself look like Mr. Family Values. But he saw pregnancy as a form of control. He D&D'd all his children, except Alexandra. He'd threaten to leave Sofia when she was pregnant&in pain;he emotionally abused her when she couldn't breast feed. Leo Tolstoy didn't do anything kinky with Sofia. I don't think the issue is whether the sex is kinky or not. The issue IS respect. Leo Tolstoy used normal sex for domination, control, power. I would've engaged in vanilla sex with the ex-P... if he had respected me. I would've engaged in kinky sex with the ex-P... if it were mutually consensual. Consent, respect, honesty, dignity, those are the REAL issues. Disrespect is disrespect, whether the sex is normal or not.

At the end it was all about domination and control, and aggression. Sick.

Mine was totally twisted in bed. Would make the most bizarre requests and say the most startling things. One day he came to visit me in the middle of the day. I told him we didn't have a lot of time because I had to get to class in 20 minutes. He kept pushing sex and when I finally got out of the bed to get ready for class I felt my yoga pants being yanked down from behind and him attempting to enter me. He got extremely violent with me, and was all about control and degradation in bed. From what I've read this is very common and NOT OKAY.

So twisted.. My ExN was obsessed with Porn.. constantly asked me for anal.. wanted me to pee on him and vice versa. He once wanted to pull out my tampon himself..all sorts of crazy uncomfortable positions.. sex became more and more aggressive.. i would kinda pull back and he would ask if he was hurting me.. I would tell him yes..... he just kept on going. :(

EX liked masturbation and being naked around the house some nights after showering he would walk straight from the shower to the fridge grab a beer naked and air dry while watching TV he loved doing that kind of thing 'in his house' I didn't have a problem with either but he became demanding with special requests of me he would buy flimsy panties and ask me to wear them so he could tear them or rip them off me he viewed porn but privately I knew it turned him on and I didn't mind until he showed me what he was really looking at then I was grossed out I didn't feel it was abnormal but looking at it now it was controlling he talked to me during sex and had he loved travel sex and I didn't find it weird but he said he liked that truck drivers could 'get a glimpse' I don't know how to say this - he would ask me to rub his semen in to my body like lotion because he said he imagined his DNA absorbing into my body and of course his desire for anal sex and brief sexual encounters with coworkers

Mine had severe sexual hangups. He lost his virginity to me when he was 25. I wasn't a virgin, obviously. In six years we had sex maybe five times, and all five times were WEIRD and UNCOMFORTABLE. I can't even tell you how much the sex sucked. He didn't mind oral, but he STUNK down there, and I would literally have to wash my nose and mouth and hands afterward because the stench and taste lingered. He masturbated on his stomach with his penis facing downward, inside his underwear, and when he'd have an orgasm, he'd just sleep in it all night. Despite all this, he'd visit several transgender story sites (most with pictures of naked women) every night, and he often wrote erotica that dealt with a man turning into a woman and meeting a man who was perfect and all that. My God, there were so many things wrong with him, and those were just the sexual ones.

thought I had someone else posted about doing things in the dark he liked having the lights on he hated it if I closed my eyes and fantasized during sex he would say 'why are your eyes closed' and 'you should ONLY be thinking of ME" and he would tell me to keep my eyes open - and on him! he would ask me to tell him every fantasy I had and he tried different ways to satisfy me he couldn't stand it if I closed my eyes I told him once about a cop fantasy I had - he resented me about it (he's not a cop) and brought home some handcuffs and we had fun but I noticed that about him

glad you brought this up! I was thinking of posting a thread on same kind of subject that is totally weird and gross!! but kind of funny too! =) ha ha strange those narcs ! EX had sexual fantasy in which he had a big d*k I am not going into detail but he pushed limits and it seemed it wanted me to behave more and more submissively in the bedroom

OMG....why haven't you told me this before littleone....what a fruit cake. He better be on his best behaviour, because no one wants that getting out LOL..great ammo to keep though. You made my day, couldn't stop laughing LOL Mine was obsessed with sex, porn, dominating. I let myself into his house after he had given me the silent treatment for weeks to see if he has another woman (I know fruit cake moment), I found hundreds of tissues from him masturbating...seriously not even a breakup causes them to lose their libido...it is all they think about.

That is so twisted, yuck!

Mine told me that he used to walk about in his flat naked sweeping the floor with the broom handle up his arse - seriously. WTF!

given the amount of promiscuous behavior that these narcs engage in - if he ever got Hep C, or some other illness or is sporting one undiagnosed, he's getting possibly thousands sick. He sounds like a full fledged psychopath to not even think of this...what a freaking idiot. THANK God I don't smoke weed or I'd be going through withdrawl paranoid I got a hold of the stash... This alone should really be the cure for you...

Mine has never touched my lady parts with his hands. Ever. We have done oral on occasion, usually he is too tired for any kind of intimacy in general. Intercourse doesn't work. He cannot stay erect inside me. But we did twice, Missionary. Always in the AM, never can do it at night, he is too tired. Never wanted to go to the doctor to see if he has any kind of issue than can be addressed. No sense of adventure in the bedroom either. I don't feel like I can initiate anything either. It's almost clinical, sorta. Had I not had guy friends/ ex's who assure me I am NOT the problem, I would take this very personally. To the contrary, they are like WTF?