"We're running out of time"

The silence is broken!!

After not having heard from N in four days, and going through what i call the silent rage, he decides to contact me. Why? I was resigning to going through a D&D and resolved to just go with it. Been feeling like the "spell has been broken" -- Finally.

I had decided to visit my friends and family an hour and a half north of us (we live in the same neighborhood) last Friday, had told him about the my potential plans a week or so ago. Found out last minute that my great uncle was in the hospital (passed away friday night actually) so visit had dual purposes.

Although it has become an unspoken rule to always tell N where i am going, and exactly where i am and what i am doing, and sort of clear things with him.... I did not do that this time -- rebellious me!! I know i was pushing the card with him by not clearing it first, but I went anyhow. I thought i would call him from the road... maybe.

Well, after the start of my trip Friday night, my phone battery started to die -- i don't have a car charger so thought i would try to save what little battery juice in case of emergency. Well, apparently he had tried to reach me because my son later informed me that he texted him asking "Do you know what your mom's up to tonight?" Later friday night when i plugged my phone into the wall outlet, there were Zero texts and Zero phone messages from him. Weird. He did not contact me all weekend. I haven't heard from him in 4DAYS!!! i had a feeling that we would be angry with me for going upstate without him (even tho he had to work this past weekend),etc, etc, and for allowing my phone battery to run dry. Of course who knows what was going on in his mind. Whenever he can't reach me, or if i don't pick up the phone fast enough --- he thinks i'm having sex with someone. He is always very suspicious and accusatory.

So his anger is oozing out again and he's been using the Silent Treatment to control -- again.

And now, just now .... at long last... I get this text from him: "We are running out of time. Could you stop by for lunch?" What the--?!

I take some time to contemplate and reply: "We are running out of time??". So he says: "I'll explain later". Oooohhhh, the audacity. It feels like a salesman tactic to bait me in!

How dare he?!