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#1 Jan 28 - 1PM
Happy1
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what are we doing?

I'm sitting here and thinking... I can't believe we are all here dwelling and sometimes pining. I can't believe people like this (narcs) exist that they can get under our skin this way. I'm upset for us all that we have to get over something so sick and twisted, and feel even worse that so many people don't understand this. It's just shocking how many men really are narcs. Good luck to us all and I we all see the light of day very soon!!

Jan 28 - 2PM
Briseis
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You too, eh? Every day I am

You too, eh? Every day I am still a little shocked, or appalled, I guess, that here we all are, together sharing our suffering, supporting each other. All because of a particular kind of pathological person. NPD is more common in men, but there seems to be no more male PDIs than female ones. And I agree with you . . . a HUGE number of people have PDs, or at least a lot of the traits. Self centeredness, lack of empathy, manipulativeness, blah blah blah. It makes the true, honest people of integrity an absolute JOY to know :) I appreciate them SO much. I cultivate those relationships. The rest of them . . . I keep my distance. What else to do?
Jan 28 - 3PM (Reply to #5)
Happy1
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Briseis

It's a much scarier world than I ever imagined. I think I have been slightly sheltered so it's time for me to put my big girl pants on and grow up I guess. 8-)
Jan 28 - 3PM (Reply to #6)
Briseis
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That was the exact same

That was the exact same conclusion I came to :) I had NO idea, really. I watched the news like the next person, I knew what a psychopath and a Narc were. I just thought they "happened" out there, to "other people". It was removed from my life. And when it came INTO my life (again, in my case), I had no idea what it even was. My exNarc was not my first Narc. But once I realized what he was, I saw all of them, from my father to my first husband to this person and that person to an ex-boss. They have ALWAYS been there, I just had no "concept" of what I was seeing. I mostly just thought it was ME somehow being all wrong, not strong enough, or likeable enough. I don't think we are unusual, here. I believe as a society we are just BEGINNING to get this "concept" of personality disorder, and how common it is, and thankfully, how destructive and hopeless it is to be anywhere near a PDI.
Jan 28 - 3PM (Reply to #7)
Happy1
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Briseis

I feel the same way. I have had it in my life but didn't have a clue what I was experiencing. Not until I this past narc has made me completely nutso that I was taking a lot of blame for what he was doing. He has twisted me up like a pretzel and I am now working my way out of it. It is a learning experience to make us stronger women and grow from this I hope and believe. 8-)
Jan 28 - 1PM
Hunter
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I guess we could be glad

I guess we could be glad that we didn't run into a serial killer. Lemons to Lenoade? I guess!!
Jan 28 - 1PM (Reply to #2)
Happy1
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idealk

speak for yourself. I'm not ruling mine out! lol
Jan 28 - 2PM (Reply to #3)
Hunter
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LoL

Remember Stacy Peterson!